The Real Deal Holyfield: A Refreshing and Honest Look at Marriage with Carline Hooker
Fri Jan 30 2026
In this episode, host Kianti sits down with her homegirl, Carline Hooker, the "saleswoman extraordinaire" and founder of NetworkIt.
Carline brings 14 years of marriage experience (and 17 years of partnership) to the table for a conversation that moves past the "Instagrammable" version of relationships and into the "real deal Holyfield" truth. Whether you are single, dating, or decades into a marriage, this episode offers a refreshing perspective on what it actually takes to build a life with someone else.
Inside This Episode:
Moving Beyond "Communication": Carline explains why she "hates" the standard advice that communication is the key to marriage and offers actionable alternatives.The Power of Service: A deep dive into the definition of love as "taking actions to help another person win".Different by Design: Understanding the fundamental biological and psychological differences between partners to remove barriers of tension.Prioritizing Values: How to recognize when your personal priorities, like efficiency, might be inadvertently "poo-pooing" on your partner's strengths.Safe Spaces for Honesty: Identifying safe spaces to discuss challenges and obstacles as they arise in marriage.About the Guest:
Carline Hooker is the founder and owner of NetworkIt, a community focused on connecting people for the sake of genuine connection rather than just business revenue. You can find her at networkitcoach.com or on Instagram at @NetworkItCoach or @carline_hkr.
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In this episode, host Kianti sits down with her homegirl, Carline Hooker, the "saleswoman extraordinaire" and founder of NetworkIt. Carline brings 14 years of marriage experience (and 17 years of partnership) to the table for a conversation that moves past the "Instagrammable" version of relationships and into the "real deal Holyfield" truth. Whether you are single, dating, or decades into a marriage, this episode offers a refreshing perspective on what it actually takes to build a life with someone else. Inside This Episode: Moving Beyond "Communication": Carline explains why she "hates" the standard advice that communication is the key to marriage and offers actionable alternatives.The Power of Service: A deep dive into the definition of love as "taking actions to help another person win".Different by Design: Understanding the fundamental biological and psychological differences between partners to remove barriers of tension.Prioritizing Values: How to recognize when your personal priorities, like efficiency, might be inadvertently "poo-pooing" on your partner's strengths.Safe Spaces for Honesty: Identifying safe spaces to discuss challenges and obstacles as they arise in marriage.About the Guest: Carline Hooker is the founder and owner of NetworkIt, a community focused on connecting people for the sake of genuine connection rather than just business revenue. You can find her at networkitcoach.com or on Instagram at @NetworkItCoach or @carline_hkr. Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding