#106 Özlem Özkan: Why Life Repeats (The Patterns Your Nervous System Learned)
Mon Feb 02 2026
In this solo episode, I explore why repeatedly ending up in the same situations is rarely about bad luck or wrong choices.
I reflect on how early experiences shape what our nervous system learns to recognize as familiar. What once felt normal often becomes what feels safe, even when it no longer serves us. Over time, these learned patterns quietly guide our relationships, work environments, and emotional dynamics.
Drawing from neuroscience, attachment theory, trauma research, and my own lived experience, I share how repeating situations are often survival patterns rather than personality traits. Patterns that once helped us stay connected, but may now lead to exhaustion, self abandonment, or confusion.
This episode is an invitation to move from self blame to awareness. To recognize familiarity without mistaking it for truth. And to begin creating inner safety so different choices can slowly become possible.
In this episode, you will learn about
• Why repeating situations is often about conditioning, not choice
• How the brain confuses familiarity with safety
• What attachment patterns have to do with relationships and work
• Why changing people or environments does not always change the pattern
• The signs that you may be replaying an old survival strategy
• Simple ways to interrupt patterns with awareness and compassion
🎙️ Host: Özlem Özkan
✧ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ozkanozlem/
✧ Website: www.ozkanozlem.com
✧ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ozlemozkan/
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In this solo episode, I explore why repeatedly ending up in the same situations is rarely about bad luck or wrong choices. I reflect on how early experiences shape what our nervous system learns to recognize as familiar. What once felt normal often becomes what feels safe, even when it no longer serves us. Over time, these learned patterns quietly guide our relationships, work environments, and emotional dynamics. Drawing from neuroscience, attachment theory, trauma research, and my own lived experience, I share how repeating situations are often survival patterns rather than personality traits. Patterns that once helped us stay connected, but may now lead to exhaustion, self abandonment, or confusion. This episode is an invitation to move from self blame to awareness. To recognize familiarity without mistaking it for truth. And to begin creating inner safety so different choices can slowly become possible. In this episode, you will learn about • Why repeating situations is often about conditioning, not choice • How the brain confuses familiarity with safety • What attachment patterns have to do with relationships and work • Why changing people or environments does not always change the pattern • The signs that you may be replaying an old survival strategy • Simple ways to interrupt patterns with awareness and compassion 🎙️ Host: Özlem Özkan ✧ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ozkanozlem/ ✧ Website: www.ozkanozlem.com ✧ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ozlemozkan/