95. Why Love Feels Hard—And How Security Changes Everything
Sat Feb 07 2026
Love doesn’t feel hard because you’re broken. It feels hard because of how your nervous system learned to attach.
In this episode, we unpack attachment styles from childhood to adulthood, how they quietly shape our relationships, work, and sense of self, and why so many people feel stuck repeating the same patterns. Then we shift into what secure attachment actually looks like in real life — not just in relationships with loved ones, but in how you relate to yourself, your purpose, and the life you’re building.
This is about moving from survival mode into a life that feels steady, connected, and safe to live inside.
Includes a 3-step practice for intentionally security creation in your life and relationships.
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✅ Register for the free masterclass BREAKING THE LOVE CURSE: How to Have Better Relationships
✅ Follow on Instagram for daily tips & inspiration
✅ Book your free coaching consult at effielavore.com
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Love doesn’t feel hard because you’re broken. It feels hard because of how your nervous system learned to attach. In this episode, we unpack attachment styles from childhood to adulthood, how they quietly shape our relationships, work, and sense of self, and why so many people feel stuck repeating the same patterns. Then we shift into what secure attachment actually looks like in real life — not just in relationships with loved ones, but in how you relate to yourself, your purpose, and the life you’re building. This is about moving from survival mode into a life that feels steady, connected, and safe to live inside. Includes a 3-step practice for intentionally security creation in your life and relationships. . ✅ Register for the free masterclass BREAKING THE LOVE CURSE: How to Have Better Relationships ✅ Follow on Instagram for daily tips & inspiration ✅ Book your free coaching consult at effielavore.com