The Inner Work of Outer Conflict with Ursula Taylor | #34
Tue Jan 20 2026
If conflict keeps replaying in your head — it's not about what was said, but what was felt.
In this episode of Get Your House in Order, host Elke Rubach sits down with former litigator turned conflict strategist Ursula Taylor to unpack why most approaches to conflict actually make it worse. Drawing from 17 years in high-stakes legal disputes, Ursula explains how conflict is driven by emotion, fear, and unprocessed energy — and how learning to regulate what happens inside you changes everything outside of you.
This conversation reframes conflict as information, not failure — and offers practical tools to stay grounded, clear, and powerful without avoiding hard conversations or burning bridges.
In this episode, you'll learn:
Why conflict shows up in the body before it reaches language How to release emotional "charge" instead of spreading it The difference between boundaries rooted in love and conflict driven by fear If you want to stop avoiding difficult conversations — and start meeting them with clarity, self-trust, and calm authority — this episode is your invitation to begin.
Guest: Ursula Taylor
🔗 Website: https://conflictreimagined.com/ | LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/ursula-taylor-b0ba4729
👤 Host: Elke Rubach rubachwealth.com | LinkedIn: Elke Rubach
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If conflict keeps replaying in your head — it's not about what was said, but what was felt. In this episode of Get Your House in Order, host Elke Rubach sits down with former litigator turned conflict strategist Ursula Taylor to unpack why most approaches to conflict actually make it worse. Drawing from 17 years in high-stakes legal disputes, Ursula explains how conflict is driven by emotion, fear, and unprocessed energy — and how learning to regulate what happens inside you changes everything outside of you. This conversation reframes conflict as information, not failure — and offers practical tools to stay grounded, clear, and powerful without avoiding hard conversations or burning bridges. In this episode, you'll learn: Why conflict shows up in the body before it reaches language How to release emotional "charge" instead of spreading it The difference between boundaries rooted in love and conflict driven by fear If you want to stop avoiding difficult conversations — and start meeting them with clarity, self-trust, and calm authority — this episode is your invitation to begin. Guest: Ursula Taylor 🔗 Website: https://conflictreimagined.com/ | LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ursula-taylor-b0ba4729 👤 Host: Elke Rubach rubachwealth.com | LinkedIn: Elke Rubach