Why I Disagree with The Let Them Theory
Mon Feb 02 2026
In this episode of the Mind Over Money Podcast, Jessen James challenges the popular “Let Them Theory” and explains why blindly letting things slide can quietly turn you into a doormat. He unpacks when “letting them” is healthy, when it’s harmful, and why self-respect, boundaries, and personal responsibility matter more than passive acceptance.
Key Takeaways Listeners will learn the difference between emotional maturity and avoidance, how unchecked tolerance attracts disrespect, and why knowing your flex versus your standards is essential. Jessen explains how standing up for yourself builds confidence, protects your values, and prevents resentment—without turning you into an aggressive or reactive person.
Highlights Jessen shares real-life examples—from online trolls to family boundaries—to illustrate when disengaging is wise and when confrontation is necessary. He also explores how avoiding conflict stunts growth, why healthy conflict is unavoidable in life, and how learning to address issues head-on can strengthen character, leadership, and self-worth.
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About the host:
Jessen James
Jessen has spoken to and trained thousands of entrepreneurs all over the world and has been featured on Channel 5's Rich House Poor House.
Having built, bought, and sold multiple businesses himself, Jessen has had some amazing wins and some rather spectacular fails too! He now dedicates his time to serving others to better their lives and businesses by sharing his learnings. Get in touch today.
CONTACT DETAILS
Website: https://www.jessenjames.com/
LinkedIn-https://uk.linkedin.com/in/jessen-james-%F0%9F%91%88%F0%9F%8F%BD-31380968
Twitter: https://twitter.com/jessenjames7
EMAIL: success@jessenjames.com
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In this episode of the Mind Over Money Podcast, Jessen James challenges the popular “Let Them Theory” and explains why blindly letting things slide can quietly turn you into a doormat. He unpacks when “letting them” is healthy, when it’s harmful, and why self-respect, boundaries, and personal responsibility matter more than passive acceptance. Key Takeaways Listeners will learn the difference between emotional maturity and avoidance, how unchecked tolerance attracts disrespect, and why knowing your flex versus your standards is essential. Jessen explains how standing up for yourself builds confidence, protects your values, and prevents resentment—without turning you into an aggressive or reactive person. Highlights Jessen shares real-life examples—from online trolls to family boundaries—to illustrate when disengaging is wise and when confrontation is necessary. He also explores how avoiding conflict stunts growth, why healthy conflict is unavoidable in life, and how learning to address issues head-on can strengthen character, leadership, and self-worth. Get your copy of Unstoppable Magazine here: https://www.jessenemail.com/unstoppablelaunch Packed with mindset tips, success strategies, and inspiring stories to help you crush your goals and stay unstoppable. And it’s FREE! Don’t miss out. About the host: Jessen James Jessen has spoken to and trained thousands of entrepreneurs all over the world and has been featured on Channel 5's Rich House Poor House. Having built, bought, and sold multiple businesses himself, Jessen has had some amazing wins and some rather spectacular fails too! He now dedicates his time to serving others to better their lives and businesses by sharing his learnings. Get in touch today. CONTACT DETAILS Website: https://www.jessenjames.com/ LinkedIn-https://uk.linkedin.com/in/jessen-james-%F0%9F%91%88%F0%9F%8F%BD-31380968 Twitter: https://twitter.com/jessenjames7 EMAIL: success@jessenjames.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mindovermoney/message --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mindovermoney/message