105: Polarity Intelligence: Embracing Resistance and Conflict to Scale Value
Thu Jan 22 2026
Most leaders treat tension like a problem to solve: pick a side, push harder, and move on. But the reality is, many challenges aren’t solvable, they’re polarities, meaning two interdependent values that both matter (like speed and quality, acquisition and retention, hierarchy and participation).
In this conversation, we unpack why leaders get trapped in recurring conflict loops, how ego and expert status hijack dialogue, and why resistance often contains wisdom leaders don’t have yet. Tracy and Michelle share the practical difference between problems and polarities, how to build “dynamic balance” instead of pendulum swings, and how to use polarity mapping tools and early warning signs to course-correct early — before friction becomes burnout, churn, or breakdown.
What You’ll Learn
How to quickly tell: problem to solve vs polarity to leverage
Why “resistance” often reveals risk, values, and insight
The 3-part framework: Mindset, Relationships, Dialogue
How polarity thinking reduces burnout with personal polarities like work/home, activity/rest, being/doinghttps://www.polarityintelligence.com/
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Most leaders treat tension like a problem to solve: pick a side, push harder, and move on. But the reality is, many challenges aren’t solvable, they’re polarities, meaning two interdependent values that both matter (like speed and quality, acquisition and retention, hierarchy and participation). In this conversation, we unpack why leaders get trapped in recurring conflict loops, how ego and expert status hijack dialogue, and why resistance often contains wisdom leaders don’t have yet. Tracy and Michelle share the practical difference between problems and polarities, how to build “dynamic balance” instead of pendulum swings, and how to use polarity mapping tools and early warning signs to course-correct early — before friction becomes burnout, churn, or breakdown. What You’ll Learn How to quickly tell: problem to solve vs polarity to leverage Why “resistance” often reveals risk, values, and insight The 3-part framework: Mindset, Relationships, Dialogue How polarity thinking reduces burnout with personal polarities like work/home, activity/rest, being/doinghttps://www.polarityintelligence.com/