Rest or Self-Sabotage? The Dark Side of the Soft Girl Era
Mon Feb 02 2026
We need to talk about the darker side of slowing down, soft girl energy, and “just resting.”Because sometimes rest is nourishing… and sometimes it’s avoidance dressed up as self-care.
In this episode, I’m diving into the nuance between honouring your capacity and quietly self-sabotaging the very life you say you want. This was sparked by a client message about gym consistency, but it applies to everything – your business, your relationship, your health, your goals, your life.
This is a permission slip to stop outsourcing your intuition to the internet, stop looking for validation for every decision, and start building real self-trust.
In this episode, we explore:
The difference between true rest and avoidance
Why “soft girl era” can become a sneaky form of self-sabotage
How social media validates both burnout and avoidance
Why fundamentals matter more than complicated hacks
The truth about discipline, devotion, and feminine embodiment
How flexibility and adaptability build sustainable success
Why self-trust is built through action, not just reflection
Re-parenting yourself with both softness and structure
Real-life examples from fitness, business, and personal growth
How to tell if you’re honouring your body or avoiding responsibility
Work with me 1:1
If this episode made you realise you’re stuck in all-or-nothing cycles, avoidance, or burnout – this is exactly the work we do inside Magnetic Muse.
In 1:1 coaching, we work on:
Nervous system regulation
Embodied discipline and devotion
Self-trust and intuitive decision-making
Boundaries, relationships, leadership, and self-leadership
Building a life that feels aligned, pleasurable, and sustainable
There are currently 3 spaces available.
👉 Apply here: https://www.khorrocks.com/coaching👉 Or DM me COACHING on Instagram to chat. https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/
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We need to talk about the darker side of slowing down, soft girl energy, and “just resting.”Because sometimes rest is nourishing… and sometimes it’s avoidance dressed up as self-care. In this episode, I’m diving into the nuance between honouring your capacity and quietly self-sabotaging the very life you say you want. This was sparked by a client message about gym consistency, but it applies to everything – your business, your relationship, your health, your goals, your life. This is a permission slip to stop outsourcing your intuition to the internet, stop looking for validation for every decision, and start building real self-trust. In this episode, we explore: The difference between true rest and avoidance Why “soft girl era” can become a sneaky form of self-sabotage How social media validates both burnout and avoidance Why fundamentals matter more than complicated hacks The truth about discipline, devotion, and feminine embodiment How flexibility and adaptability build sustainable success Why self-trust is built through action, not just reflection Re-parenting yourself with both softness and structure Real-life examples from fitness, business, and personal growth How to tell if you’re honouring your body or avoiding responsibility Work with me 1:1 If this episode made you realise you’re stuck in all-or-nothing cycles, avoidance, or burnout – this is exactly the work we do inside Magnetic Muse. In 1:1 coaching, we work on: Nervous system regulation Embodied discipline and devotion Self-trust and intuitive decision-making Boundaries, relationships, leadership, and self-leadership Building a life that feels aligned, pleasurable, and sustainable There are currently 3 spaces available. 👉 Apply here: https://www.khorrocks.com/coaching👉 Or DM me COACHING on Instagram to chat. https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/