How to Live In Unity, Part 4
Sun Jan 25 2026
What if unity isn’t just something you hope for—but something you can repair, rebuild, and protect?
In this powerful sermon, you’ll learn that unity is not passive—it’s intentional, and peace doesn’t happen by accident. This message breaks down how spiritual maturity shows up in real-life relationships: families, churches, workplaces, and everyday conflict.
If you’re tired of division, emotional escalation, broken relationships, or repeating the same cycles—this message will give you language, clarity, and biblical wisdom to move forward in peace.
To learn more about The Feast of the Lord, visit us online at www.orangeburgchurch.com
Here are the author's notes from this week's message:
How to Live in Unity Pt. 4
So let us then definitely aim for and eagerly pursue what makes for harmony and for mutual upbuilding (edification and development) of one another.
Romans 14:19 AMPC
*- Unity does not merely preserve; sometimes unity repairs, and God gives us the spiritual tools to do exactly that.
1. How do we repair unity when someone’s actions cause damage?
Above all things have intense and unfailing love for one another, for love covers a multitude of sins [forgives and disregards the offenses of others].
1 Peter 4:8 AMPC
*- Love does not excuse wrongdoing. Love removes the desire to punish the person who did wrong—so that restoration is possible.
*- The first step in repairing unity is this: in your heart, separate the person from their incident.
*- We lovingly restore the person, and let the Holy Spirit reveal, convict, transform, and uproot the internal issues that fueled the incident.
2. What Jesus taught about restoring strained relationships:
Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.
Matthew 5:9 KJV
*- Jesus never told us to avoid conflict; He told us to handle conflict in a way that brings restoration, not division.
*- Peacemaking means entering a strained situation with the intention to protect the relationship, not to prove superiority.
3. Use this 4-part “Repair Sequence” when unity has been wounded—it’s short, simple, and powerful.
*- Step 1: Name the goal, not the problem: “I want this relationship healed so we can stay united.”
*- Step 2: Name your heart posture: “I’m not here to attack—I’m here to understand you and restore.”
*- Step 3: Name what future unity requires: “For us to move forward, here’s what we must avoid repeating…”
*- Step 4: Ask for their participation: “Are you willing to rebuild our relationship with me, yes or no?”
*- This prevents emotional escalation and keeps both people sensitive to and following the Holy Spirit, instead of their fleshly feelings.
Lifework Assignment:
*- Ask the Holy Spirit two questions daily:
*- “Will You show me those with whom I need to repair unity?”
*- “Will You give me words that heal, to replace the words I’m likely to use that harm?”
*- And declare: “I refuse to let division live in me, through me, or around me!”
Expected Behavior:
Be of the same mind one toward another. Mind not high things, but condescend to men of low estate. Be not wise in your own conceits.
Romans 12:16 KJV
*- When someone is unstable, heated, or overwhelmed, our role is not to match their energy—our role is to shift the atmosphere from a fleshly human presence to God’s sacred presence (peace).
*- Correction should produce clarity, not collapse. If our words make them shut down, we must stop speaking and acknowledge their feelings (which opens their heart). Then, continue only with understanding and gentleness, because we form unity by giving light, not by proving we’re right.
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What if unity isn’t just something you hope for—but something you can repair, rebuild, and protect? In this powerful sermon, you’ll learn that unity is not passive—it’s intentional, and peace doesn’t happen by accident. This message breaks down how spiritual maturity shows up in real-life relationships: families, churches, workplaces, and everyday conflict. If you’re tired of division, emotional escalation, broken relationships, or repeating the same cycles—this message will give you language, clarity, and biblical wisdom to move forward in peace. To learn more about The Feast of the Lord, visit us online at www.orangeburgchurch.com Here are the author's notes from this week's message: How to Live in Unity Pt. 4 So let us then definitely aim for and eagerly pursue what makes for harmony and for mutual upbuilding (edification and development) of one another. Romans 14:19 AMPC *- Unity does not merely preserve; sometimes unity repairs, and God gives us the spiritual tools to do exactly that. 1. How do we repair unity when someone’s actions cause damage? Above all things have intense and unfailing love for one another, for love covers a multitude of sins [forgives and disregards the offenses of others]. 1 Peter 4:8 AMPC *- Love does not excuse wrongdoing. Love removes the desire to punish the person who did wrong—so that restoration is possible. *- The first step in repairing unity is this: in your heart, separate the person from their incident. *- We lovingly restore the person, and let the Holy Spirit reveal, convict, transform, and uproot the internal issues that fueled the incident. 2. What Jesus taught about restoring strained relationships: Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God. Matthew 5:9 KJV *- Jesus never told us to avoid conflict; He told us to handle conflict in a way that brings restoration, not division. *- Peacemaking means entering a strained situation with the intention to protect the relationship, not to prove superiority. 3. Use this 4-part “Repair Sequence” when unity has been wounded—it’s short, simple, and powerful. *- Step 1: Name the goal, not the problem: “I want this relationship healed so we can stay united.” *- Step 2: Name your heart posture: “I’m not here to attack—I’m here to understand you and restore.” *- Step 3: Name what future unity requires: “For us to move forward, here’s what we must avoid repeating…” *- Step 4: Ask for their participation: “Are you willing to rebuild our relationship with me, yes or no?” *- This prevents emotional escalation and keeps both people sensitive to and following the Holy Spirit, instead of their fleshly feelings. Lifework Assignment: *- Ask the Holy Spirit two questions daily: *- “Will You show me those with whom I need to repair unity?” *- “Will You give me words that heal, to replace the words I’m likely to use that harm?” *- And declare: “I refuse to let division live in me, through me, or around me!” Expected Behavior: Be of the same mind one toward another. Mind not high things, but condescend to men of low estate. Be not wise in your own conceits. Romans 12:16 KJV *- When someone is unstable, heated, or overwhelmed, our role is not to match their energy—our role is to shift the atmosphere from a fleshly human presence to God’s sacred presence (peace). *- Correction should produce clarity, not collapse. If our words make them shut down, we must stop speaking and acknowledge their feelings (which opens their heart). Then, continue only with understanding and gentleness, because we form unity by giving light, not by proving we’re right.