The Five Love Languages: Do They Feel Loved? (Part 1)
Tue Feb 03 2026
Thirty years after The Five Love Languages reshaped how we talk about relationships, Dr. Gary Chapman joins John and me to revisit the core question that matters most: Do the people you love actually feel loved?
This episode kicks off our month-long series with Dr. Chapman—a deep dive into the love languages that becomes a master class in how we give and receive love.
We unpack the five love languages, the idea of the “love tank,” and why good intentions aren’t enough. This episode sets the foundation for the entire series and reframes how we think about love, connection, and effort.
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Listen in to learn more:
[0:00:34] Timeless Impact of the Five Love Languages[0:07:59] The Five Love Languages, Clearly Defined[0:11:31] The Love Tank and the 5:1 Magic Ratio[0:16:19] How to Check Your Partner’s Love Tank Level[0:18:07] Simple Ways to Discover Someone’s Love Language
In this episode, we are diving into an overview of the five love languages, why it is important to know your love language, how to figure out your partner’s love language, the love tank metaphor and why it matters, the magic ratio of negative to positive interactions with your loved ones, one check in question to ask your partner, and the love language that matters most.
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Thirty years after The Five Love Languages reshaped how we talk about relationships, Dr. Gary Chapman joins John and me to revisit the core question that matters most: Do the people you love actually feel loved? This episode kicks off our month-long series with Dr. Chapman—a deep dive into the love languages that becomes a master class in how we give and receive love. We unpack the five love languages, the idea of the “love tank,” and why good intentions aren’t enough. This episode sets the foundation for the entire series and reframes how we think about love, connection, and effort. Life Happens. Let’s talk about it. Listen in to learn more: [0:00:34] Timeless Impact of the Five Love Languages[0:07:59] The Five Love Languages, Clearly Defined[0:11:31] The Love Tank and the 5:1 Magic Ratio[0:16:19] How to Check Your Partner’s Love Tank Level[0:18:07] Simple Ways to Discover Someone’s Love Language In this episode, we are diving into an overview of the five love languages, why it is important to know your love language, how to figure out your partner’s love language, the love tank metaphor and why it matters, the magic ratio of negative to positive interactions with your loved ones, one check in question to ask your partner, and the love language that matters most. Get my personal newsletter and win a copy of Dr Chapman’s new book Take the Love Languages Quiz Take the Premium Assessment Get Dr. new book: The Love Language That Matters Most Connect with Paula on Instagram THE CARRY™ ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices