#144 - The Magic of Not Fitting In || Why Systems Fail and Souls Thrive || Victoria Lenormand
Fri Feb 06 2026
In Part 1 of this conversation on The Personal Success Podcast, Ryan sits down with Victoria Lenormand to explore what happens when human complexity collides with rigid systems.
This episode is an honest inquiry into power… compliance… parenting… education… leadership… and what it means to raise and lead humans who do not fit neatly into predefined boxes.
Rather than rushing toward answers, this conversation slows down. It asks better questions.
Together, Ryan and Victoria explore how systems are often designed for efficiency… not humanity… and why so many high performing adults quietly feel like they failed at something they were never meant to succeed in.
In this episode, we explore:
• Why not fitting in is often a sign of health… not failure • How systems reward compliance over curiosity • The hidden cost of forcing humans to harden instead of adapt • Parenting and leadership as acts of listening… not control • Why softness is not weakness… but intelligence • The early formation of identity inside systems that cannot pivot
This is Part 1 of a two part conversation. Part 1 lays the groundwork… naming the problem… and surfacing the tension many people feel but cannot yet articulate.
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Victoria’s Links
Website: https://geminidirections.co.uk/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoria-lenormand-2129227b/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/geminidirections.co.uk/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/geminidirections
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In Part 1 of this conversation on The Personal Success Podcast, Ryan sits down with Victoria Lenormand to explore what happens when human complexity collides with rigid systems. This episode is an honest inquiry into power… compliance… parenting… education… leadership… and what it means to raise and lead humans who do not fit neatly into predefined boxes. Rather than rushing toward answers, this conversation slows down. It asks better questions. Together, Ryan and Victoria explore how systems are often designed for efficiency… not humanity… and why so many high performing adults quietly feel like they failed at something they were never meant to succeed in. In this episode, we explore: • Why not fitting in is often a sign of health… not failure • How systems reward compliance over curiosity • The hidden cost of forcing humans to harden instead of adapt • Parenting and leadership as acts of listening… not control • Why softness is not weakness… but intelligence • The early formation of identity inside systems that cannot pivot This is Part 1 of a two part conversation. Part 1 lays the groundwork… naming the problem… and surfacing the tension many people feel but cannot yet articulate. 👉 Subscribe on YouTube to continue the journey and support the show:youtube.com/@thepersonalsuccesspodcast Victoria’s Links Website: https://geminidirections.co.uk/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoria-lenormand-2129227b/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/geminidirections.co.uk/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/geminidirections