episode 052 - envy vs jealousy
Thu Feb 05 2026
We use "jealousy" as a catch-all for anything that feels gross and competitive. But envy and jealousy are actually two completely different experiences. One is giving you useful information about what you want. The other? That's fear wearing a really convincing disguise. Today we're unpacking both, how they show up in friendships (the part nobody talks about), and what to actually do when you feel them.
In This Episode:
→ The actual difference between envy and jealousy (and why language matters)
→ Envy is information. Jealousy is protection.
→ How both show up in friendships: promotions, new friends, weddings, glow ups
→ The Cool Girl monologue and friendship performance
→ Amadeus, Othello, Gone Girl
→ What social media has done to both emotions
→ What to do when you feel either one
Referenced Episodes:
Episode 49: The Only Dating Advice You Need Episode 45: 3 Patterns I'm Noticing in Women's Dating & Friendships Right Now Episode 25: The Friendship Audit
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We use "jealousy" as a catch-all for anything that feels gross and competitive. But envy and jealousy are actually two completely different experiences. One is giving you useful information about what you want. The other? That's fear wearing a really convincing disguise. Today we're unpacking both, how they show up in friendships (the part nobody talks about), and what to actually do when you feel them. In This Episode: → The actual difference between envy and jealousy (and why language matters) → Envy is information. Jealousy is protection. → How both show up in friendships: promotions, new friends, weddings, glow ups → The Cool Girl monologue and friendship performance → Amadeus, Othello, Gone Girl → What social media has done to both emotions → What to do when you feel either one Referenced Episodes: Episode 49: The Only Dating Advice You Need Episode 45: 3 Patterns I'm Noticing in Women's Dating & Friendships Right Now Episode 25: The Friendship Audit want to book a coaching session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3ue want to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.com have a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority 💘 SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesorority INSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/ TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesorority YOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority subscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘 youtube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wO spotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhn apple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2 💘 catch up with, our founder + host, Shantel instagram// https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/ tiktok// https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseau youtube// https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonline OUTFITS - ShopMy// https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseau OUTFITS - LTK// https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau 💘 ——— Keywords/Tags: envy vs jealousy, difference between envy and jealousy, friendship jealousy, jealousy in friendships, green eyed monster, cool girl monologue, gone girl, female friendships, women in their 30s, modern womanhood, social media comparison