Episode 137 Alexandra Carter How To Ask For More and Turn "No" into "Yes" | The Tim Castle Show
Fri Jan 30 2026
Todays guest is one of the most respected voices in modern negotiation.
She’s a professor at Columbia Law School, a negotiation trainer to the United Nations, and the bestselling author of Ask for More - a book that has changed how millions of people think about advocating for themselves.
Her work challenges a deeply ingrained myth: that negotiation is about confrontation, pressure, or power.
Instead, she teaches something far more effective - that the right question, asked at the right moment, can completely change the outcome of a conversation.
She’s helped diplomats navigate international crises, leaders negotiate careers and compensation, and everyday people learn how to ask for what they deserve — without fear, guilt, or burnout.
Today, we’re going to talk about why asking is a skill, how to negotiate without aggression, and how to show up with confidence in the moments that matter most.
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Alex website https://alexcarterasks.com/
Tedx Talk https://www.ted.com/talks/alex_carter_how_to_ask_for_more_and_get_it_sep_2024
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Todays guest is one of the most respected voices in modern negotiation. She’s a professor at Columbia Law School, a negotiation trainer to the United Nations, and the bestselling author of Ask for More - a book that has changed how millions of people think about advocating for themselves. Her work challenges a deeply ingrained myth: that negotiation is about confrontation, pressure, or power. Instead, she teaches something far more effective - that the right question, asked at the right moment, can completely change the outcome of a conversation. She’s helped diplomats navigate international crises, leaders negotiate careers and compensation, and everyday people learn how to ask for what they deserve — without fear, guilt, or burnout. Today, we’re going to talk about why asking is a skill, how to negotiate without aggression, and how to show up with confidence in the moments that matter most. Follow Alex: Claim your copy of Ask For More https://amzn.to/4roY4RU Follow Alex on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/alexandrabcarter/ Columbia Law School https://www.law.columbia.edu/faculty/alexandra-carter Alex website https://alexcarterasks.com/ Tedx Talk https://www.ted.com/talks/alex_carter_how_to_ask_for_more_and_get_it_sep_2024 Follow Tim Magnetic Influence: How to negotiate and persuade in a disrupted world. Pre-order Now https://amzn.to/3M5HKq3 #1 Startups book $0-1m The First Domino https://amzn.to/3Z0NrbJ The Art of Negotiation #1 in UK #jobinterviews and #1 in US for CareerAdvancement https://amzn.to/3LSA6zh Tim Castle is recognised in the Worlds Top 30 Negotiation Professionals an award winning best selling Author and negotiation expert. His books are relied upon by Universities, Fortune 500 companies. YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@TimCastle Negotiation Expert Instagram https://www.instagram.com/timjscastle/?hl=en The Highly Skilled Negotiator Course (80+ LESSONS) https://www.timjscastle.com/the-highly-skilled-negotiator How To Crush Your Job Interviews Course https://www.timjscastle.com/job-interview-mastery Negotiation Skills Training Academy https://www.thenegotiatorsedge.ai/ Tim's Website https://www.timjscastl...