The Trauma Teacher

Grab my FREE Guide “Finally at Peace” and start breaking free from survival mode: https://janice-holland.kit.com/finall... Submit your Question: https://forms.gle/SjS1JcSB6tPFtDFu7 ______________________________ Have you tried everything to make your marriage work — communicating better, going to therapy, reading books, softening your approach — and still feel lonely, exhausted, and like you’re failing? In this episode of Dear Therapist, I respond to a real, anonymous submission from a woman who feels like she’s constantly adjusting herself to keep the peace, yet nothing ever changes. She’s walking on eggshells, overthinking every interaction, and blaming herself for a relationship that still feels disconnected. In this episode, we talk about: Why overfunctioning in a marriage keeps you stuck How survival mode shows up as fixing, pleasing, and overcompensating Why trying harder actually activates your nervous system and pushes connection further away The hidden cost of living in constant self-blame and disappointment Why feeling your disappointment is not weakness — it’s the beginning of regulation How to stop abandoning yourself without becoming cold, selfish, or giving up This is not advice, marriage fixing, or cheerleading. It’s about understanding the pattern underneath the pain and learning how to reorient your life from a grounded, embodied place. If you’re a high-functioning woman who feels lonely in her marriage, emotionally exhausted, or stuck in survival mode, this episode will help you understand why — and what actually moves the needle. __________ Ready to go Deeper? *Join the Courageous Living Digital Studio: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/... *Join the 60 Day Reset Experience: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/... *Apply for The Becoming Intensiive: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1E... *Work with me 1:1: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/... Not sure which one to pick? Take the quiz: https://form.typeform.com/to/YFxykSjU Connect with me on Instagram:   / the.trauma.teacher   ___________________________________________________________________Janice Holland, LPC-S, Certified Trauma Model Therapist, and founder of The Courageous Living Framework, teaches women and healers worldwide how to break survival patterns, heal trauma, and rebuild lives rooted in truth, peace, and power. Known online as The Trauma Teacher, Janice helps women stop people-pleasing, heal the patterns that kept them small, and build unshakable confidence after trauma. It’s time to live a life that finally feels like yours. Ready to go Deeper? *Join the Courageous Living Digital Studio: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/the-courageous-living-no-bs-membership/ *Join the 60 Day Reset Experience: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/cl-group-transformation/ *Apply for The Becoming Intensive: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1EUa69NL3f4jodIg6J_javkNdW9qEYoRl/edit?usp=sharing&ouid=100729952587821838385&rtpof=true&sd=true *Work with me 1:1: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/thecourageouslivingjourney/ Not sure which one to pick? Take the quiz: https://form.typeform.com/to/YFxykSjU Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.trauma.teacher __________________________________________________________________________________ Janice Holland, LPC-S, Certified Trauma Model Therapist, and founder of The Courageous Living Framework, teaches women and healers worldwide how to break survival patterns, heal trauma, and rebuild lives rooted in truth, peace, and power. Known online as The Trauma Teacher, Janice helps women stop people-pleasing, heal the patterns that kept them small, and build unshakable confidence after trauma. It’s time to live a life that finally feels like yours.