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Unlocking Better Marriage and Men’s Self-Improvement with Jordan Carlos In this episode, comedian and author Jordan Carlos shares unconventional insights on improving marriage through small but impactful actions, the importance of self-awareness in masculinity, and practical tips for men to step into their optimal roles at home and social settings. Whether you're a partner seeking to support your significant other or a man looking to elevate your own life, this conversation offers actionable wisdom wrapped in humor and honesty. The concept of "Chore Play" and how chores can foster intimacy without manipulationSmall habits to reduce friction and improve household contributionThe significance of mental and cognitive labor often unnoticed by menOvercoming the "recovering man child" mindset and embracing responsible masculinityPractical hacks for daily routines—like managing Tupperware and trash daysThe importance of enjoying your own company and cultivating "unicorn space"Navigating media, books, and role models that shape perceptions of masculinityHow men can self-regulate and avoid proxy arguments over minor issuesThe impact of emotional presence versus just "checking the box" in relationshipsRecognizing invisible labor and amplifying your contributions consciously Fair Play by Eve RodskyChore PlayEsther PerelThe 5AM Club by Robin Sharma Enter to win a hardcover copy of Chore Play by clicking here. Giveaway ends in four days! Key TopicsTimestamps00:00 - Introduction to Jordan Carlos and the premise of "Chore Play"02:00 - My initial reaction to the book title and misunderstanding it as manipulative03:30 - How chores can serve as foreplay and build intimacy naturally05:00 - The low bar: simple daily contributions that make a difference06:30 - The importance of clearing small tasks and routines like trash and toiletries08:00 - Reframing household contribution as a form of contribution to the relationship10:00 - Recognizing mental and cognitive labor that men can start to take on12:00 - Practical tips for managing responsibilities and avoiding proxy arguments14:00 - Building micro-habits: starting small and celebrating progress16:00 - The role of role models like "the Colonel" and the importance of visible masculinity18:00 - Overcoming difficult moments with books like Fair Play and Chore Play20:00 - The benefits of routines like waking early and managing responsibilities consciously22:00 - How media and societal norms influence perceptions of masculinity24:00 - The significance of enjoying alone time ("unicorn space") for mental health26:00 - The importance of consistency and small wins in long-term relationship health28:00 - Recognizing and respecting the invisible labor many men are already doing30:00 - The power of weekly partner meetings to stay aligned32:00 - Personal stories of shifting from reactive to proactive contributions34:00 - How to avoid burnout and keep routines sustainable36:00 - Addressing the challenge of accountability and honest communication38:00 - Media's role in shaping gender roles and how men can redefine their part40:00 - The spectrum of masculinity—from traditional to progressive—men can find their place42:00 - Learning from family models and cultural influences on gender roles44:00 - The critical role of self-awareness and intentionality in embodying masculinity46:00 - Practical advice for beginners: small acts that create big ripples48:00 - Managing social settings—like parties or family gatherings—consciously50:00 - Recognizing and breaking addictive or destructive rituals around sports and leisure52:00 - The value of quantifying your contributions through routines and habits54:00 - Insights into male friendships, masculinity, and modern male identity56:00 - Cultivating self-sufficiency and enjoying your own company58:00 - How media often overlooks the efforts of well-meaning men and their silent contributions