Why SHAME: Should Have Already Mastered Everything is a Lie We Need to Drop
Fri Oct 24 2025
Ever catch yourself thinking, “I should’ve figured this out by now”? That’s not just self-doubt talking—that’s SHAME: Should Have Already Mastered Everything.
In this empowering episode of This Woman Can, Janice Sutherland breaks down the pressure so many Black women feel to have life completely “together” by midlife. From careers and confidence to technology and transitions, SHAME shows up everywhere—and it’s time to call it out.
Janice shares how this belief takes root in perfectionism, representation, and survival-driven success, and how to replace it with self-compassion, curiosity, and courage.
You’ll learn how to embrace being a beginner again, redefine mastery on your own terms, and remember that midlife isn’t a deadline, it’s your do-over.
Because you’re not here to master everything, you’re here to live everything.
Tune in, laugh a little, and leave lighter, wiser, and ready to evolve.
Ready to create your fearless future? Enroll in my self-paced program 50 Forward: Fearless Future - the step-by-step guide to designing your next chapter with clarity, confidence, and joy.
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I'm Janice Sutherland, a Career and Life Strategist passionate about helping mature Black women navigate their midlife journeys. I help you discover your own answers, cultivate confidence, gain clarity, and effectively self-advocate for success.
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Ever catch yourself thinking, “I should’ve figured this out by now”? That’s not just self-doubt talking—that’s SHAME: Should Have Already Mastered Everything. In this empowering episode of This Woman Can, Janice Sutherland breaks down the pressure so many Black women feel to have life completely “together” by midlife. From careers and confidence to technology and transitions, SHAME shows up everywhere—and it’s time to call it out. Janice shares how this belief takes root in perfectionism, representation, and survival-driven success, and how to replace it with self-compassion, curiosity, and courage. You’ll learn how to embrace being a beginner again, redefine mastery on your own terms, and remember that midlife isn’t a deadline, it’s your do-over. Because you’re not here to master everything, you’re here to live everything. Tune in, laugh a little, and leave lighter, wiser, and ready to evolve. Ready to create your fearless future? Enroll in my self-paced program 50 Forward: Fearless Future - the step-by-step guide to designing your next chapter with clarity, confidence, and joy. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Are you a mature Black woman feeling stuck in your career? Discover how to plan your next chapter with confidence and clarity. Subscribe to my FREE newsletter for exclusive career tips for the mature Black woman: https://www.janicesutherland.com/subscribe-to-twc-newsletter I'm Janice Sutherland, a Career and Life Strategist passionate about helping mature Black women navigate their midlife journeys. I help you discover your own answers, cultivate confidence, gain clarity, and effectively self-advocate for success. Connect with Janice: Web: https://www.janicesutherland.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamjanicesutherland/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/iamjanicesutherland YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thiswomancan