TNM Unplugged

What makes coaching truly different from every other development modality? In this deep, spacious conversation, Zoran and Michael Stratford, MCC unpack a radical, yet simple truth: Most of the world says, “Be like me.”Coaching, at its purest, says, “Be like you.”Drawing on his background in mathematics, theater, and three decades of coaching, Michael explains why uniqueness is not a nice idea, but a mathematical and existential fact — and why the coach’s role is to help clients discover the way of living, leading, and succeeding that fits them on a cellular level.Together they explore: Why coaching is the one profession that doesn’t ask clients to copy someone else’s success modelHow epigenetics, tribal survival, and cultural conditioning make uniqueness feel dangerousThe crucial difference between behavior (learned survival strategy) and essence (who you really are)Michael’s powerful exercise: “Who are you without…?” — stripping away roles, achievements, titles, and identitiesThe moment of realizing: “I am… me” — and how that changes everythingThe “shoe test”: how to know when a role, job, or opportunity truly fits youWhy stepping into your uniqueness requires courage, vulnerability, and transition, not reckless cut-offThe journey from fitting into the world → to shaping the world around who you areThey also explore the very practical side of uniqueness: money, work, profession, saying no to misaligned contracts, and creating new paths and even new professions when what you are doesn’t yet exist in the market.The conversation then opens into a bigger reflection on life: Above the line / below the line – “My life works exactly the way I want it to”Why goals (MCC, championships, money, Olympic gold) are means to an inner evolution, not the pointThe key question:“Given that we’re all going to die, how do I want to experience my life on a daily basis, between now and then?” Finally, Michael offers a clear call to action:If you truly want to honor your uniqueness, use a coach. Not because you “need” one to survive — but because a coach is a powerful ally in helping you live more fully as yourself, with less struggle and more awareness. This is a rich, human, and deeply spiritual episode that will stay with listeners long after it ends. Key Talking Points Coaching as the only profession that says: “Be like you,” not “Be like me.”Mathematical and energetic uniqueness – why no two humans are the sameCultural and epigenetic conditioning: the fear of being different and fear of banishmentThe trap: confusing behavior (“that’s just how I am”) with essence (“who I really am”)The identity question: “Who are you without work, without titles, without achievements?”The “Who am I without…?” exercise (roles, accomplishments, beliefs, relationships, culture…)Reaching the simple but profound answer: “I am me.”Developing a “cellular-level fit” for your life choices: the shoe test metaphorVulnerability and courage: the threshold of stepping into your unique expressionCongruence, integrity, and authenticity as outcomes of living your uniquenessPractical realities: money, job loss, transitions, and creating new professions that didn’t exist beforeAbove/below the line:Below the line: “I’m trying to make my life work the way I want.”At the line: “My life works the way I want.”Above the line: “Now that my life works, what do I want my life to be about?”Legacy: being remembered not for titles and money, but for being a good humanRedefining goals: from chasing outcomes → to focusing on who we become in the processWhy coaches also need coaches — congruence, credibility, and personal evolutionCoaching as a tool: not a necessity, but a powerful ally in evolving consciousness and life experienceReassurance for listeners: your uniqueness will not leave you alone — it will attract the right peopleWebsite LinkedIn