283: Plant-Based in Public — Self-Advocacy for Vegans
Tue Feb 03 2026
Hey kids — it’s Michele.This episode starts with a tiny restaurant moment (lemon… table… shade) that turned into a big coaching insight. If you pride yourself on being “easy” and low-maintenance, you might also be practicing a lifelong habit of not asking for what you need.
And here’s the twist: plant-based consistency in the real world isn’t mostly about food. It’s about asking. Asking questions, requesting swaps, clarifying ingredients, and tolerating a few seconds of social awkwardness without abandoning yourself.
If you’ve ever eaten something “just to keep things simple”… this one’s for you.
In This Episode
The difference between being “easy” and self-silencingWhy asking can feel like “making a scene,” even when it’s totally reasonableThe nervous-system reason you choose discomfort over disapprovalHow this shows up at restaurants, with family, at events, and while travelingA simple progression to build the “asking muscle” (without apology spirals)The Lemon Challenge: one small ask per day for 7 daysKey Takeaways
Asking isn’t being difficult. It’s self-advocacy.Not asking means saying, “No,” to yourself.If your identity is “I don’t ask for things,” veganism can feel harder than it needs to.The win isn’t a perfect meal. The win is: “I didn’t sacrifice myself.”Try This: The Lemon Challenge (7 Days)
For the next week, make one small request per day—at a restaurant, with a friend, at work or home, anywhere.
Rules:
Keep it simple.Skip the apology spiral.The goal is making the ask, not getting a yes.If you do it, I want to hear what you asked for and what you noticed.
Mentioned
Café Sapori (West Palm Beach, FL) — a vegan-friendly restaurant shout-outHow you go vegan is how you do everything.See you next week.
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For more information, to submit a question or topic, or to book a free 30 minute Coaching session visit veganatanyage.com or email info@micheleolendercoaching.com
Music, Production, and Editing by Charlie Weinshank. For inquiries email: charliewe97@gmail.com Virtual Support Services: https://proadminme.com/
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Hey kids — it’s Michele.This episode starts with a tiny restaurant moment (lemon… table… shade) that turned into a big coaching insight. If you pride yourself on being “easy” and low-maintenance, you might also be practicing a lifelong habit of not asking for what you need. And here’s the twist: plant-based consistency in the real world isn’t mostly about food. It’s about asking. Asking questions, requesting swaps, clarifying ingredients, and tolerating a few seconds of social awkwardness without abandoning yourself. If you’ve ever eaten something “just to keep things simple”… this one’s for you. In This Episode The difference between being “easy” and self-silencingWhy asking can feel like “making a scene,” even when it’s totally reasonableThe nervous-system reason you choose discomfort over disapprovalHow this shows up at restaurants, with family, at events, and while travelingA simple progression to build the “asking muscle” (without apology spirals)The Lemon Challenge: one small ask per day for 7 daysKey Takeaways Asking isn’t being difficult. It’s self-advocacy.Not asking means saying, “No,” to yourself.If your identity is “I don’t ask for things,” veganism can feel harder than it needs to.The win isn’t a perfect meal. The win is: “I didn’t sacrifice myself.”Try This: The Lemon Challenge (7 Days) For the next week, make one small request per day—at a restaurant, with a friend, at work or home, anywhere. Rules: Keep it simple.Skip the apology spiral.The goal is making the ask, not getting a yes.If you do it, I want to hear what you asked for and what you noticed. Mentioned Café Sapori (West Palm Beach, FL) — a vegan-friendly restaurant shout-outHow you go vegan is how you do everything.See you next week. Subscribe & Review: If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Your feedback helps us grow and share the message of plant-based living with more listeners. For more information, to submit a question or topic, or to book a free 30 minute Coaching session visit veganatanyage.com or email info@micheleolendercoaching.com Music, Production, and Editing by Charlie Weinshank. For inquiries email: charliewe97@gmail.com Virtual Support Services: https://proadminme.com/