When Commitment Becomes Self-Abandonment
Wed Feb 04 2026
What if the thing you’re calling commitment is actually costing you yourself?
In this episode of Your Yes Filled Life, Brenda explores how staying — in jobs, relationships, habits, or roles — can quietly turn into self-abandonment, especially for empathic, high-capacity people.
You’ll learn:
The difference between integrity-based commitment and hope-based endurance
Why clarity gets quieter the longer you override yourself
How nervous system safety restores discernment and self-trust
Two simple reflection questions to help you know when it’s time to choose differently
This episode is for anyone who keeps thinking, “Maybe if I just try harder…” and feels the cost in their body.
✨ If you’re ready to stop carrying this question alone, join us at the Intuitive Leader Retreat, March 3–5 in Lincoln City, Oregon. Enrollment closes February 26. Pre-retreat integration calls are included with registration when you register by February 18.
🔗 Learn more: https://www.brendawinkle.com/retreat2026
Download your energy audit: https://www.brendawinkle.com/audit
Keywords: commitment, self-abandonment, self-care, emotional well-being, COVID-19 pandemic, personal growth, community support, internal validation, external validation, high achievers, intuitive nudges, nervous system safety, boundaries, authentic growth, self-trust, decision-making, life transitions, reflective questions, Intuitive Leader Retreat, personal story, clarity, compassionate guidance, habits, relationships, jobs, misalignment, hope, self-inquiry, nurturing, healing, safe space, supportive environment, peace, authenticity.
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What if the thing you’re calling commitment is actually costing you yourself? In this episode of Your Yes Filled Life, Brenda explores how staying — in jobs, relationships, habits, or roles — can quietly turn into self-abandonment, especially for empathic, high-capacity people. You’ll learn: The difference between integrity-based commitment and hope-based endurance Why clarity gets quieter the longer you override yourself How nervous system safety restores discernment and self-trust Two simple reflection questions to help you know when it’s time to choose differently This episode is for anyone who keeps thinking, “Maybe if I just try harder…” and feels the cost in their body. ✨ If you’re ready to stop carrying this question alone, join us at the Intuitive Leader Retreat, March 3–5 in Lincoln City, Oregon. Enrollment closes February 26. Pre-retreat integration calls are included with registration when you register by February 18. 🔗 Learn more: https://www.brendawinkle.com/retreat2026 Download your energy audit: https://www.brendawinkle.com/audit Keywords: commitment, self-abandonment, self-care, emotional well-being, COVID-19 pandemic, personal growth, community support, internal validation, external validation, high achievers, intuitive nudges, nervous system safety, boundaries, authentic growth, self-trust, decision-making, life transitions, reflective questions, Intuitive Leader Retreat, personal story, clarity, compassionate guidance, habits, relationships, jobs, misalignment, hope, self-inquiry, nurturing, healing, safe space, supportive environment, peace, authenticity.