Menopause & Attachment Styles: Why Old Childhood Wounds Flare Up in Midlife
Thu Feb 05 2026
Ever wondered why your emotions suddenly feel louder, your patience thinner, and old childhood wounds are resurfacing as you move through midlife? In this episode, I sit down with attachment and menopause specialist Bev Mitelman to connect the dots between hormonal shifts, stress tolerance, and the emotional legacies we carry.
We break down why perimenopause and menopause can hit like a freight train, not just physically, but emotionally. Most of all, we unpack how your attachment style (secure, anxious, avoidant, or fearful) influences how you respond to relationships, stress, and change at this stage of life.
If you’re feeling burned out, less like yourself, or find yourself blurting things you regret or feeling unexplained relationship tensions, this episode shines a compassionate light on what’s really going on and what you can do about it.
5 Key Lessons:
Attachment styles aren’t your identity; they’re learned patterns, and you can unlearn and rewire them, even in midlife.Menopause isn’t just hot flashes; it’s a complex, decade-long process with over 30 real symptoms, many emotional and often dismissed.Sleep disturbances, anxiety, burnout, and irritability can be hormonally-driven, not just “life stress,” and you deserve real support.Emotional regulation is possible: pausing for 90 seconds, moving, or stating “I need a moment” can radically improve your relationships.This season of life is a chance for rebirth, an opportunity to tackle old wounds, rediscover what you want, and create the best version of yourself. Music:
Title: Relax by SyncLabMusic
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Want to dive deeper into emotional regulation, attachment styles, and real support for menopause? Like, share, and comment, and don’t forget to subscribe for weekly episodes designed to help you thrive. Find helpful resources by clicking the links below!
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Take the Attachment Quiz: https://mailchi.mp/securelyloved/quiz
Connect with Bev Mitelman: https://securelyloved.com
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Ever wondered why your emotions suddenly feel louder, your patience thinner, and old childhood wounds are resurfacing as you move through midlife? In this episode, I sit down with attachment and menopause specialist Bev Mitelman to connect the dots between hormonal shifts, stress tolerance, and the emotional legacies we carry. We break down why perimenopause and menopause can hit like a freight train, not just physically, but emotionally. Most of all, we unpack how your attachment style (secure, anxious, avoidant, or fearful) influences how you respond to relationships, stress, and change at this stage of life. If you’re feeling burned out, less like yourself, or find yourself blurting things you regret or feeling unexplained relationship tensions, this episode shines a compassionate light on what’s really going on and what you can do about it. 5 Key Lessons: Attachment styles aren’t your identity; they’re learned patterns, and you can unlearn and rewire them, even in midlife.Menopause isn’t just hot flashes; it’s a complex, decade-long process with over 30 real symptoms, many emotional and often dismissed.Sleep disturbances, anxiety, burnout, and irritability can be hormonally-driven, not just “life stress,” and you deserve real support.Emotional regulation is possible: pausing for 90 seconds, moving, or stating “I need a moment” can radically improve your relationships.This season of life is a chance for rebirth, an opportunity to tackle old wounds, rediscover what you want, and create the best version of yourself. Music: Title: Relax by SyncLabMusic Call to Action: Want to dive deeper into emotional regulation, attachment styles, and real support for menopause? Like, share, and comment, and don’t forget to subscribe for weekly episodes designed to help you thrive. Find helpful resources by clicking the links below! 📕 Resources: https://createthebestme.com/ep154 Take the Attachment Quiz: https://mailchi.mp/securelyloved/quiz Connect with Bev Mitelman: https://securelyloved.com Related Episode: 🎧 Listen to this episode next: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1949561/episodes/18550342 #MenopauseSupport #GrayDivorce #AttachmentStyles #MidlifeMarriage #Perimenopause #CreateTheBestMe #RelationshipAdvice #WomensWellness #SecurelyLoved #NervousSystemRegulation 📨 Newsletter: https://createthebestme.com/newsletter/ 👀 Connect With Me: Website: https://createthebestme.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/createthebestme Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carmenhecox/ TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@carmenhecox YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@createthebestme LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/carmen-hecox 📽️ Video Request: https://forms.office.com/r/LvLV1AsBfv