Revenge Reporting & Trusting Your Gut
Tue Feb 03 2026
In this Dear Damona episode, we cover revenge reporting, why dating app systems meant to protect us sometimes get weaponized, and how to handle rejection with grace while protecting yourself when things go sideways.
This week, a listener named Lisa shares:
"I just didn't think this was gonna be good. So I wrote him a respectful message. He responded respectfully. And within an hour I get an email from match.com that my account had been canceled due to some misbehavior. I know in my gut that guy was vindictive and turned me in. Is this a thing?"
What You'll Hear In This Episode:
Why trusting your intuition early saves you time and emotional energy later
The right way to exit a match without overexplaining or giving someone ammunition
What revenge reporting is and who it disproportionately hurts
How dating app moderation works and why they block first, ask questions later
What to do if you get banned from a dating app and how to appeal
Resources and Links:
Unlock the secret to successful dating with our Date Tracker at damonahoffman.com/datetracker.
Join Damona for in person workshops at Civana Wellness resort on February 14th and 15th and April 15-17th!
Click HERE
Enter code: VWGDAMONA
Call or text your question to: 424-246-6255. Follow @DamonaHoffman on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook and submit questions via DM or voice memo anytime.
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In this Dear Damona episode, we cover revenge reporting, why dating app systems meant to protect us sometimes get weaponized, and how to handle rejection with grace while protecting yourself when things go sideways. This week, a listener named Lisa shares: "I just didn't think this was gonna be good. So I wrote him a respectful message. He responded respectfully. And within an hour I get an email from match.com that my account had been canceled due to some misbehavior. I know in my gut that guy was vindictive and turned me in. Is this a thing?" What You'll Hear In This Episode: Why trusting your intuition early saves you time and emotional energy later The right way to exit a match without overexplaining or giving someone ammunition What revenge reporting is and who it disproportionately hurts How dating app moderation works and why they block first, ask questions later What to do if you get banned from a dating app and how to appeal Resources and Links: Unlock the secret to successful dating with our Date Tracker at damonahoffman.com/datetracker. Join Damona for in person workshops at Civana Wellness resort on February 14th and 15th and April 15-17th! Click HERE Enter code: VWGDAMONA Call or text your question to: 424-246-6255. Follow @DamonaHoffman on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook and submit questions via DM or voice memo anytime. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices