248. How To Divorce a Narcissist
Wed Feb 04 2026
In this podcast episode, I discuss mistakes and mindset strategies for divorcing a person with narcissistic tendencies.
Some people say the word narcissist is overused. I disagree. And I love that those people have the privilege of never having experienced a narcissist in an intimate setting.
When women use this word, we know what we mean. We're describing an experience that can't be captured in one simple term—the gaslighting, the silent treatment, the crazy-making moments that leave you questioning your own reality.
If you're divorcing someone with narcissistic tendencies, your divorce will look different from everyone else's. And here's what makes it harder: you've been trained to doubt yourself. You've learned to wait for permission. You've been conditioned to seek validation from people who may never understand what you've lived through.
I remember documenting my marriage for 48 days straight—writing down what happened each day so I could see the patterns in black and white. When I showed those notes to my mentor, she told me I was "being negative" and walked out of my house. She never spoke to me again.
I learned that nobody was coming to save me. I had to own my own reality.
If you're divorcing a narcissist, base your strategy on the worst moments, not the honeymoon phases. Go in prepared—with the right attorney, the right support team, and the right information. Don't bring a pen knife to a gunfight.
Want help creating your divorce strategy? Schedule a consultation with Sade at sadecurry.com/info
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In this podcast episode, I discuss mistakes and mindset strategies for divorcing a person with narcissistic tendencies. Some people say the word narcissist is overused. I disagree. And I love that those people have the privilege of never having experienced a narcissist in an intimate setting. When women use this word, we know what we mean. We're describing an experience that can't be captured in one simple term—the gaslighting, the silent treatment, the crazy-making moments that leave you questioning your own reality. If you're divorcing someone with narcissistic tendencies, your divorce will look different from everyone else's. And here's what makes it harder: you've been trained to doubt yourself. You've learned to wait for permission. You've been conditioned to seek validation from people who may never understand what you've lived through. I remember documenting my marriage for 48 days straight—writing down what happened each day so I could see the patterns in black and white. When I showed those notes to my mentor, she told me I was "being negative" and walked out of my house. She never spoke to me again. I learned that nobody was coming to save me. I had to own my own reality. If you're divorcing a narcissist, base your strategy on the worst moments, not the honeymoon phases. Go in prepared—with the right attorney, the right support team, and the right information. Don't bring a pen knife to a gunfight. Want help creating your divorce strategy? Schedule a consultation with Sade at sadecurry.com/info