73. Keeping Friendships Alive in Your 20s: What No One Prepares You For
Mon Jun 02 2025
We’re talking all about friendships in your 20s — and how no one really prepares you for how much they change. Whether it’s the school friends you haven’t messaged in months, the ones who now live halfway across the world, or the new people you’re trying to connect with while juggling work, marriage, or motherhood — it’s a lot. And no one talks about how emotionally confusing it can be.
In this episode, we’re sharing the small things we’re doing to actually keep in touch — like sending memes, making space for voice notes instead of FaceTimes, and learning how to show love in quiet, low-maintenance ways. We also get real about the guilt, the overwhelm, and how sometimes the biggest shift is just being more intentional.
If you’ve ever found yourself wondering, “Are we still even friends?” — this one’s for you.
00:00 Introduction
0:58 Why friendships in your 20s feel so different
2:32 The mental load of keeping up with everyone
4:45 What we can learn from how men stay in touch
6:55 The guilt of not reaching out — and how we’re handling it
8:50 Living life with friends, not just catching them up
10:00 Building real connection without being in the same room
11:37 Old friends, new seasons — and letting friendships evolve
13:28 Social media friendships vs. real-life connection
15:00 When your friends become mums, wives, or just really busy
17:10 Replacing the “catch up dump” with shared memories
18:45 Making space for friendship in a full life
20:06 Doing life together vs. updating each other
21:39 Being intentional — even when you don’t have the time
23:00 Ending the cycle of guilt and showing up in small ways
Don't forget to give us a rating and send us your dilemmas at:💌 thedoublelifepodcast@gmail.comHosts:@farahrajax@devamsha
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We’re talking all about friendships in your 20s — and how no one really prepares you for how much they change. Whether it’s the school friends you haven’t messaged in months, the ones who now live halfway across the world, or the new people you’re trying to connect with while juggling work, marriage, or motherhood — it’s a lot. And no one talks about how emotionally confusing it can be. In this episode, we’re sharing the small things we’re doing to actually keep in touch — like sending memes, making space for voice notes instead of FaceTimes, and learning how to show love in quiet, low-maintenance ways. We also get real about the guilt, the overwhelm, and how sometimes the biggest shift is just being more intentional. If you’ve ever found yourself wondering, “Are we still even friends?” — this one’s for you. 00:00 Introduction 0:58 Why friendships in your 20s feel so different 2:32 The mental load of keeping up with everyone 4:45 What we can learn from how men stay in touch 6:55 The guilt of not reaching out — and how we’re handling it 8:50 Living life with friends, not just catching them up 10:00 Building real connection without being in the same room 11:37 Old friends, new seasons — and letting friendships evolve 13:28 Social media friendships vs. real-life connection 15:00 When your friends become mums, wives, or just really busy 17:10 Replacing the “catch up dump” with shared memories 18:45 Making space for friendship in a full life 20:06 Doing life together vs. updating each other 21:39 Being intentional — even when you don’t have the time 23:00 Ending the cycle of guilt and showing up in small ways Don't forget to give us a rating and send us your dilemmas at:💌 thedoublelifepodcast@gmail.comHosts:@farahrajax@devamsha