Elegant Warrior Podcast with Heather Hansen

In today's episode of The Elegant Warrior, Heather breaks down why "difficult conversations" are only difficult if you believe they are. Whether you're giving or receiving feedback, negotiating a raise, setting a boundary, or asking for help, Heather shares three practical tools to help you prepare mentally, emotionally, and strategically. Drawing from her experience as a trial attorney, communication expert, and advocate, Heather explains how your beliefs shape your energy, your actions, and ultimately your results. You'll learn how to reframe the story you're telling yourself, calm your nervous system when fight, flight, freeze, or fawn shows up, and recognize when argument helps and when it hurts. This episode is a grounded, actionable guide to approaching high-stakes conversations with more confidence, calm, and clarity.     In this episode, you'll learn: Why "difficult" is just a story How your belief about a conversation determines your energy, behavior, and outcome. The BEAR framework How belief leads to energy, energy leads to action, and action leads to results. How to test your story Why changing the narrative in your head can immediately change how your body responds. Mothering the animal of your body How to work with your nervous system instead of fighting it when stress shows up. The three Bs for calming your nervous system Breathing, binding, and bending to signal safety and control. Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn How these instinctive responses show up in conversations like negotiations and feedback. When argument is the wrong tool Why arguing rarely works when the other person is the decision maker. A grounding mantra for high-stakes moments A simple phrase to calm your subconscious and help you choose presence over fear.     In this episode: 00:00 – Introduction & Evolution of the Podcast 04:00 – Preparing for High-Stakes Conversations 04:30 – Tool 1: Test Your Story 08:24 – Tool 2: Mothering the Animal 09:47 – The Three B's: Breathe, Bind, and Extend 14:28 – Tool 3: Know When to Argue 17:15 – Summary of the Three Tools 18:21 – Tool For Today (TT): Affirmation Mantra 20:12 – Conclusion & Closing Remarks     Resources and Links: 📘 Book: Advocate to Win by Heather Hansen Learn how to persuade, influence, and communicate effectively in high-stakes situations. 🎧 Grace Smith, Clinical Hypnotherapist Learn more about hypnosis, subconscious calming techniques, and the mantra shared in these videos. Learn more about Grace Smith at her official website: gracesmith.com   Connect with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather Follow Heather on Instagram Follow Heather on Facebook Connect with Heather on LinkedIn Website Watch Episodes on Youtube Heather's TikTok ‍ heather@elegantwarrior.com The Elegant Warrior Podcast and content posted by Heather Hansen is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.