Why Effort, Patience, and People Pleasing Stops Working
Wed Jan 07 2026
In this episode, we explore what it means to move from forced to self-sourced. When external crutches like validation, and good-girl syndrome aren't enough and you’re called to become your own anchor.
This conversation unpacks the emotional shifts, inner resilience, and self-trust that are built when you stop outsourcing safety, validation, and direction.
If you’ve found yourself gripping and forcing to hold yourself through uncertainty, this episode is an invitation to step into deep self-reliance, inner security, and embodied confidence.
👑 ✨ SELF-SOURCED 8 Week Group Program Waitlisted 👑 ✨ Learn more.
An 8 week initiation into your own power, through and beyond healing anxious attachment into regulation, inner security, and amazing relationships.
https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/ss-ep45-btm
Mentioned in this episode:
February Inside Becoming Secure - The Relational Field
https://www.skool.com/healing-anxious-attachment/about
A co-created space of trust, repair, and interdependence.
Core threads for the workshop Wednesday Feb 4th:
🦢Relationship as a field you tend together
🦢Interdependence vs codependence
🦢Letting your partner be human (to end internal pressure)
🦢Trusting without micromanaging
🦢Repair as a relational skill, not a personal failure
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In this episode, we explore what it means to move from forced to self-sourced. When external crutches like validation, and good-girl syndrome aren't enough and you’re called to become your own anchor. This conversation unpacks the emotional shifts, inner resilience, and self-trust that are built when you stop outsourcing safety, validation, and direction. If you’ve found yourself gripping and forcing to hold yourself through uncertainty, this episode is an invitation to step into deep self-reliance, inner security, and embodied confidence. 👑 ✨ SELF-SOURCED 8 Week Group Program Waitlisted 👑 ✨ Learn more. An 8 week initiation into your own power, through and beyond healing anxious attachment into regulation, inner security, and amazing relationships. https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/ss-ep45-btm Mentioned in this episode: February Inside Becoming Secure - The Relational Field https://www.skool.com/healing-anxious-attachment/about A co-created space of trust, repair, and interdependence. Core threads for the workshop Wednesday Feb 4th: 🦢Relationship as a field you tend together 🦢Interdependence vs codependence 🦢Letting your partner be human (to end internal pressure) 🦢Trusting without micromanaging 🦢Repair as a relational skill, not a personal failure