Stop Sending Your Kids To Their Room: It Does Not Work
Mon Feb 02 2026
Many parents say it without thinking: “Go to your room.”
But biblically, psychologically, and developmentally it’s a mistake.
In this episode, I explain why isolating children during discipline does more harm than good. Scripture shows us that isolation erodes identity, value, and hope. Add modern research on loneliness and child brain development, and the conclusion is unavoidable: connection, not isolation, is how kids learn, grow, and heal.
If we discipline our kids without connection, we aren’t teaching reflection, we’re teaching shame. And shame doesn’t produce wisdom; it produces withdrawal.
I am challenging a deeply ingrained parenting tactic and offering a better way. A way that more closely mirrors how our Heavenly Father disciplines us.
If you are ready to become a dad aligned with our Father in heaven, grab a copy of my devotion, Following Our Father: https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/digital-devotional-following-our-fa
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Many parents say it without thinking: “Go to your room.” But biblically, psychologically, and developmentally it’s a mistake. In this episode, I explain why isolating children during discipline does more harm than good. Scripture shows us that isolation erodes identity, value, and hope. Add modern research on loneliness and child brain development, and the conclusion is unavoidable: connection, not isolation, is how kids learn, grow, and heal. If we discipline our kids without connection, we aren’t teaching reflection, we’re teaching shame. And shame doesn’t produce wisdom; it produces withdrawal. I am challenging a deeply ingrained parenting tactic and offering a better way. A way that more closely mirrors how our Heavenly Father disciplines us. If you are ready to become a dad aligned with our Father in heaven, grab a copy of my devotion, Following Our Father: https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/digital-devotional-following-our-fa