Rebuilding Self After A Hellish Marriage
Tue Jan 20 2026
Have you ever looked around your life and thought,“Nothing is technically wrong… so why does everything feel so heavy?”
In this episode, I’m talking about what happens to your creativity, clarity, and sense of self after a stressful or painful season in a relationship or marriage. Not the dramatic moments… but the quiet, day-to-day weight that builds when you’ve been holding too much for too long.
We’re talking about the kind of stress that doesn’t always look obvious on the outside…but slowly drains your energy, inspiration, and trust in yourself.
If you’ve felt foggy, uninspired, emotionally tired, or unsure of who you are becoming next… this conversation is for you.
• Why long-term relationship stress quietly shuts down creativity• How emotional tension shows up in the body and mind• Why reinvention doesn’t start with adding more to your life• Three simple shifts that helped me feel aligned again• What happens when you finally eliminate the excess — mentally and emotionally• How clarity and creativity return when your system feels safe again
After a hard relationship season, many women try to move forward by doing more.More routines.More goals.More change.
But when your nervous system has been living in tension, adding more only creates more noise.
Creativity needs space.Clarity needs quiet.Alignment needs honesty.
This episode walks through how letting go — not pushing harder — created the biggest shift for me.
When you stop carrying emotional excess, something subtle but powerful happens.
Your mind feels clearer.Your body relaxes.Your ideas come back online.
You don’t force a new version of yourself.You uncover the one that was already there.
If you’re in a season where you want things to feel lighter, simpler, and more intentional — I’ve created resources that support exactly that.
You can explore them here:👉 https://courtneyspaeth.com/resources
Everything there is designed to help you clear mental clutter, make decisions with more ease, and move forward without pressure.
You don’t need to reinvent yourself overnight.You don’t need to have everything figured out.
Sometimes alignment starts the moment you stop carrying what was never meant to be permanent.
Thanks for being here. 🤍
PS...please subscribe to the podcast and also share with someone who may just need to here this episode.
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Have you ever looked around your life and thought,“Nothing is technically wrong… so why does everything feel so heavy?” In this episode, I’m talking about what happens to your creativity, clarity, and sense of self after a stressful or painful season in a relationship or marriage. Not the dramatic moments… but the quiet, day-to-day weight that builds when you’ve been holding too much for too long. We’re talking about the kind of stress that doesn’t always look obvious on the outside…but slowly drains your energy, inspiration, and trust in yourself. If you’ve felt foggy, uninspired, emotionally tired, or unsure of who you are becoming next… this conversation is for you. • Why long-term relationship stress quietly shuts down creativity• How emotional tension shows up in the body and mind• Why reinvention doesn’t start with adding more to your life• Three simple shifts that helped me feel aligned again• What happens when you finally eliminate the excess — mentally and emotionally• How clarity and creativity return when your system feels safe again After a hard relationship season, many women try to move forward by doing more.More routines.More goals.More change. But when your nervous system has been living in tension, adding more only creates more noise. Creativity needs space.Clarity needs quiet.Alignment needs honesty. This episode walks through how letting go — not pushing harder — created the biggest shift for me. When you stop carrying emotional excess, something subtle but powerful happens. Your mind feels clearer.Your body relaxes.Your ideas come back online. You don’t force a new version of yourself.You uncover the one that was already there. If you’re in a season where you want things to feel lighter, simpler, and more intentional — I’ve created resources that support exactly that. You can explore them here:👉 https://courtneyspaeth.com/resources Everything there is designed to help you clear mental clutter, make decisions with more ease, and move forward without pressure. You don’t need to reinvent yourself overnight.You don’t need to have everything figured out. Sometimes alignment starts the moment you stop carrying what was never meant to be permanent. Thanks for being here. 🤍 PS...please subscribe to the podcast and also share with someone who may just need to here this episode.