Are You Being Kind or Codependent? How Overfunctioning Is Costing You Your Peace
Wed Feb 04 2026
Have you ever wondered if you are being compassionate or if you are actually taking on responsibility that was never yours to carry?
In this episode, I am talking directly to the women who are capable, thoughtful, and deeply caring, and who often feel exhausted because they are holding everything together for everyone else.
This conversation was inspired by real emails from listeners who asked a powerful question. How can I tell if I am being compassionate or codependent?
Together, we explore how many of us were raised to overfunction, why this pattern makes so much sense, and how it shows up in our adult relationships. I share why this is not your fault, how being a “good girl” shaped so many of our habits, and why trying to fix other people’s feelings can quietly steal your peace.
Most importantly, I walk you through simple, practical ways to pause, regulate yourself, and respond differently so you can stay caring without abandoning yourself. I also share real life examples from my own day to show how this work looks in the moment, not in theory.
If you are ready to stop feeling so responsible for everyone else and start creating healthier, more connected relationships, this episode is for you.
If you liked this show, you’ll like these:
Top episodes for moms: https://SMBwell.com/mom
Top episodes related to narcissism + relationships: https://SMBwell.com/narc
The Podcast Roadmap (foundational episodes on emotional intelligence and emotional maturity): https://smbwell.com/roadmap
FREE QUIZ: How Codependent Am I? https://SMBwell.com/coda
Get the full show notes here👉🏾 https://SMBwell.com/392
⭐️See if Coach Susie has room on her schedule: https://smbwell.com/work-with-me/
🤓Join the Love Your Life School: http://theLoveYourLifeSchool.com
🙌🏾 Support Susie’s Mission: https://patreon.com/susiepettit
📰Get the Weekly Warrior Wellness Newsletter: http://bit.ly/2gYQMlA
🩷Let’s be friends on Instagram-https://instagram.com/smb.wellness
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Have you ever wondered if you are being compassionate or if you are actually taking on responsibility that was never yours to carry? In this episode, I am talking directly to the women who are capable, thoughtful, and deeply caring, and who often feel exhausted because they are holding everything together for everyone else. This conversation was inspired by real emails from listeners who asked a powerful question. How can I tell if I am being compassionate or codependent? Together, we explore how many of us were raised to overfunction, why this pattern makes so much sense, and how it shows up in our adult relationships. I share why this is not your fault, how being a “good girl” shaped so many of our habits, and why trying to fix other people’s feelings can quietly steal your peace. Most importantly, I walk you through simple, practical ways to pause, regulate yourself, and respond differently so you can stay caring without abandoning yourself. I also share real life examples from my own day to show how this work looks in the moment, not in theory. If you are ready to stop feeling so responsible for everyone else and start creating healthier, more connected relationships, this episode is for you. If you liked this show, you’ll like these: Top episodes for moms: https://SMBwell.com/mom Top episodes related to narcissism + relationships: https://SMBwell.com/narc The Podcast Roadmap (foundational episodes on emotional intelligence and emotional maturity): https://smbwell.com/roadmap FREE QUIZ: How Codependent Am I? https://SMBwell.com/coda Get the full show notes here👉🏾 https://SMBwell.com/392 ⭐️See if Coach Susie has room on her schedule: https://smbwell.com/work-with-me/ 🤓Join the Love Your Life School: http://theLoveYourLifeSchool.com 🙌🏾 Support Susie’s Mission: https://patreon.com/susiepettit 📰Get the Weekly Warrior Wellness Newsletter: http://bit.ly/2gYQMlA 🩷Let’s be friends on Instagram-https://instagram.com/smb.wellness The post Are You Being Compassionate or Codependent? How Overfunctioning Is Costing You Your Peace appeared first on Susie Pettit.