Ep 45 | Find the Need. Fill the Need. The Heart of F3 Leadership | The Whetstone
Thu Feb 05 2026
In Episode 45 of The Whetstone, Dark Helmet and The Plague unpack one of the most powerful leadership principles in F3 and in life:
Find the need. Fill the need.
Instead of waiting for titles, permission, or open roles, great men step into gaps. They respond to what’s needed in their families, workplaces, churches, and communities.
Through conversations about Zebra Jockey leadership, Q Source, faith, and real-life leadership challenges, this episode challenges men to stop managing positions and start owning responsibility.
Leadership isn’t about having a seat.
It’s about serving the mission.
✅ What You’ll Learn in This Episode
✅ Why “find the need, fill the need” is the core of F3 leadership
✅ How Zebra Jockey thinking builds adaptive men
✅ Why waiting for roles limits your influence
✅ The difference between structure and mission
✅ How Q Source applies beyond workouts
✅ Reducing discretion without abdicating responsibility
✅ Playing the long game at work and home
✅ Leading without formal authority
✅ Why interruptions are often the real mission
✅ How faith shapes high-agency leadership
🎙️ Powerful Sound Bites
🎙️ “Find the need, fill the need. That’s the deal.”
🎙️ “Leadership isn’t about filling seats. It’s about filling gaps.”
🎙️ “Titles don’t create influence. Ownership does.”
🎙️ “If it’s headed to town, hop on.”
🎙️ “The world loves the status quo. Leaders don’t.”
⏱️ Episode Timestamps
00:00 – F3 Ski, socks, and culture
04:20 – Fear of failure and growth
06:10 – Q Source and leadership development
09:00 – Faith and third F purpose
12:30 – Structure vs mission
16:00 – Vision-driven leadership
18:45 – Community influence
22:30 – Titles and authority
25:00 – Agency at work
29:00 – Playing the long game
34:00 – “All of this is made up”
36:45 – Zebra Jockey explained
41:00 – Waiting vs leading
45:00 – Agency vs responsibility
49:00 – Family priorities
54:00 – Closing reflections
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In Episode 45 of The Whetstone, Dark Helmet and The Plague unpack one of the most powerful leadership principles in F3 and in life: Find the need. Fill the need. Instead of waiting for titles, permission, or open roles, great men step into gaps. They respond to what’s needed in their families, workplaces, churches, and communities. Through conversations about Zebra Jockey leadership, Q Source, faith, and real-life leadership challenges, this episode challenges men to stop managing positions and start owning responsibility. Leadership isn’t about having a seat. It’s about serving the mission. ✅ What You’ll Learn in This Episode ✅ Why “find the need, fill the need” is the core of F3 leadership ✅ How Zebra Jockey thinking builds adaptive men ✅ Why waiting for roles limits your influence ✅ The difference between structure and mission ✅ How Q Source applies beyond workouts ✅ Reducing discretion without abdicating responsibility ✅ Playing the long game at work and home ✅ Leading without formal authority ✅ Why interruptions are often the real mission ✅ How faith shapes high-agency leadership 🎙️ Powerful Sound Bites 🎙️ “Find the need, fill the need. That’s the deal.” 🎙️ “Leadership isn’t about filling seats. It’s about filling gaps.” 🎙️ “Titles don’t create influence. Ownership does.” 🎙️ “If it’s headed to town, hop on.” 🎙️ “The world loves the status quo. Leaders don’t.” ⏱️ Episode Timestamps 00:00 – F3 Ski, socks, and culture 04:20 – Fear of failure and growth 06:10 – Q Source and leadership development 09:00 – Faith and third F purpose 12:30 – Structure vs mission 16:00 – Vision-driven leadership 18:45 – Community influence 22:30 – Titles and authority 25:00 – Agency at work 29:00 – Playing the long game 34:00 – “All of this is made up” 36:45 – Zebra Jockey explained 41:00 – Waiting vs leading 45:00 – Agency vs responsibility 49:00 – Family priorities 54:00 – Closing reflections Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices