204: You’re Not Lazy, You’re Burned Out: Why Motivation Fades in Midlife
Wed Jan 28 2026
If you’ve ever told yourself “What’s wrong with me?” or “Why can’t I just stay motivated?”—this episode is for you.
In today’s episode, I’m talking about why lack of motivation is not laziness, especially for women in midlife. What’s really happening is burnout. And it often shows up disguised as inconsistency, procrastination, brain fog, or giving up on exercise and healthy habits altogether.
After years of coaching moms, teens, and now women in midlife, I see this pattern over and over again: you start strong, push hard, lose energy, fall off, and then blame yourself. But the truth is, motivation is not a reliable resource, especially when you’re overextended, hormonally shifting, and carrying a lot of responsibility.
In this episode, I explain:
Why motivation fades when you’re burned out (and why that’s not a personal failure)
How burnout is actually a nervous system response, not a discipline problem
Why all-or-nothing thinking keeps you stuck in the same cycle
How pushing without recovery leads to shutdown, not progress
I also share three simple, realistic strategies to help you stay consistent with exercise and health goals without forcing yourself:
How to lower the bar without losing momentum
How to build habits around capacity instead of willpower
How to redefine consistency so it actually feels sustainable
If you’re tired of starting over, feeling guilty for needing rest, or believing you need more discipline to stay consistent, this episode will help you shift your pace, not quit your goals.
You’re not lazy.You don’t need more motivation.You just need a kinder, more sustainable rhythm.
🎧 Listen in, and if this resonates, share it with a friend who needs permission to slow down and still succeed.
To learn more about working with me one-on-one, click here.
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If you’ve ever told yourself “What’s wrong with me?” or “Why can’t I just stay motivated?”—this episode is for you. In today’s episode, I’m talking about why lack of motivation is not laziness, especially for women in midlife. What’s really happening is burnout. And it often shows up disguised as inconsistency, procrastination, brain fog, or giving up on exercise and healthy habits altogether. After years of coaching moms, teens, and now women in midlife, I see this pattern over and over again: you start strong, push hard, lose energy, fall off, and then blame yourself. But the truth is, motivation is not a reliable resource, especially when you’re overextended, hormonally shifting, and carrying a lot of responsibility. In this episode, I explain: Why motivation fades when you’re burned out (and why that’s not a personal failure) How burnout is actually a nervous system response, not a discipline problem Why all-or-nothing thinking keeps you stuck in the same cycle How pushing without recovery leads to shutdown, not progress I also share three simple, realistic strategies to help you stay consistent with exercise and health goals without forcing yourself: How to lower the bar without losing momentum How to build habits around capacity instead of willpower How to redefine consistency so it actually feels sustainable If you’re tired of starting over, feeling guilty for needing rest, or believing you need more discipline to stay consistent, this episode will help you shift your pace, not quit your goals. You’re not lazy.You don’t need more motivation.You just need a kinder, more sustainable rhythm. 🎧 Listen in, and if this resonates, share it with a friend who needs permission to slow down and still succeed. To learn more about working with me one-on-one, click here. Follow me on Instagram