Freedom from Shame | 218
Tue Feb 03 2026
Your social brain "thinks" that if you are extra hard on yourself it will motivate you to do better.
But the opposite is true: The more you make yourself feel bad, the more you unconsciously do things to justify bad feelings.
Shame kills your mojo more than anything else. Kills performance. Disconnects you from your instincts and "soul."
This episode is on freeing yourself from shame considering:
* Evolutionary basis of this social emotion.
* Why self-shaming backfires. (Transactional Analysis)
* A simple but profound solution from the “Father of modern therapy,” Dr. Carl Rogers.
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Your social brain "thinks" that if you are extra hard on yourself it will motivate you to do better. But the opposite is true: The more you make yourself feel bad, the more you unconsciously do things to justify bad feelings. Shame kills your mojo more than anything else. Kills performance. Disconnects you from your instincts and "soul." This episode is on freeing yourself from shame considering: * Evolutionary basis of this social emotion. * Why self-shaming backfires. (Transactional Analysis) * A simple but profound solution from the “Father of modern therapy,” Dr. Carl Rogers. ruwando.substack.com Anabolic Psyche course: go.anabolicpsyche.com (see Dopamine Detox add-on) INSTINCT coaching group just started. Message me for info. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe