EP476 - Destination Sexy: Your Passport to Pleasure
Tue Feb 03 2026
Welcome to Episode 476 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Ally Iseman, who speaks to me about desire discrepancy, long-term intimacy, and how travel can become a powerful doorway back to erotic connection.
In this episode, Ally and I discuss one of the most common struggles couples bring into therapy: loving their partner while feeling disconnected from sex and intimacy. We talk about why desire naturally shifts over time, how novelty + security can feel like they are pulling in opposite directions, and why sexless periods are often symptoms rather than the core issue.
Ally Iseman is a non-monogamy educator, erotic lifestyle consultant, and ICF-certified relationship coach who has spent over a decade helping individuals, couples, and moresomes create authentic, fulfilling relationships on their own terms. As the founder of Passport 2 Pleasure, an inclusive relationship education platform, Ally champions open communication and conscious connection within sex-positive and non-traditional relationship dynamics.
In this episode, you will hear:
· Understanding Desire Discrepancy
· Why Novelty Fuels Erotic Energy
· Sexless Relationships As A Symptom
· Reframing Masturbation And Shame
· Travel As Foreplay For Connection
· Escape Versus Exploration In Trips
· Sensuality Beyond Sexual Acts
· Creating Mystery Through Planning
· Managing Expectations And Pressure
· Curiosity As A Relationship Skill
Passport2Pleasure: Use our link HERE to save $100 on the course “ENM 101: Open Up Without Breaking Up”
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Podcast Produced by Vaudeo Productions
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Welcome to Episode 476 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Ally Iseman, who speaks to me about desire discrepancy, long-term intimacy, and how travel can become a powerful doorway back to erotic connection. In this episode, Ally and I discuss one of the most common struggles couples bring into therapy: loving their partner while feeling disconnected from sex and intimacy. We talk about why desire naturally shifts over time, how novelty + security can feel like they are pulling in opposite directions, and why sexless periods are often symptoms rather than the core issue. Ally Iseman is a non-monogamy educator, erotic lifestyle consultant, and ICF-certified relationship coach who has spent over a decade helping individuals, couples, and moresomes create authentic, fulfilling relationships on their own terms. As the founder of Passport 2 Pleasure, an inclusive relationship education platform, Ally champions open communication and conscious connection within sex-positive and non-traditional relationship dynamics. In this episode, you will hear: · Understanding Desire Discrepancy · Why Novelty Fuels Erotic Energy · Sexless Relationships As A Symptom · Reframing Masturbation And Shame · Travel As Foreplay For Connection · Escape Versus Exploration In Trips · Sensuality Beyond Sexual Acts · Creating Mystery Through Planning · Managing Expectations And Pressure · Curiosity As A Relationship Skill Passport2Pleasure: Use our link HERE to save $100 on the course “ENM 101: Open Up Without Breaking Up” Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo Productions Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy