3-20 - The First Step Home: Reconnecting With the You You’ve Lost
Wed Sep 03 2025
Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought, “I don’t even recognize myself anymore”?
Life changes, especially a divorce, can leave us feeling like a stranger in our own story.
In this first episode of our Tools for a New Chapter series, Pat invites you to take the gentle yet powerful step of reconnecting with the real you. If you’ve been pouring into everyone else and forgotten what you need, this episode is a reminder: you matter, too.
What if the next chapter of your life starts with simply remembering who you are?
Journal Prompts Mentioned in the Episode:
Who am I—apart from the roles I’ve played?
(Try finishing this sentence three times: “I am someone who…”)
What are 3 things I used to love doing—but haven’t done in a long time?
(Which one could I try this week?)
When was the last time I felt truly like myself?
(What was I doing? Who was I with?)
How do I want to feel at this time next year?
(Name the emotion first. Then brainstorm what small steps can get you there.)
What’s one gentle promise I can make to myself today?
(Write it as if you were writing to a friend you love deeply.)
“You’re not starting from scratch, you’re starting from experience.”- Pat
Key Takeaways -
Life transitions can make us forget our identity, but reconnecting is possible, using tools like stillness, curiosity, and reflection. There’s a difference between being alone and choosing healthy solitude. Learning to enjoy your own company is part of healing. Asking “Who am I now?” is brave—and it leads to real growth and clarity.
Useful links -
📘 Get your copy of the book: Rebuilding Your Life After a Gray Divorce
🔗 More silver resources here: patfenner.me
Leave a message for me - I’d love to hear from you! https://www.speakpipe.com/PatFenner
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Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought, “I don’t even recognize myself anymore”? Life changes, especially a divorce, can leave us feeling like a stranger in our own story. In this first episode of our Tools for a New Chapter series, Pat invites you to take the gentle yet powerful step of reconnecting with the real you. If you’ve been pouring into everyone else and forgotten what you need, this episode is a reminder: you matter, too. What if the next chapter of your life starts with simply remembering who you are? Journal Prompts Mentioned in the Episode: Who am I—apart from the roles I’ve played? (Try finishing this sentence three times: “I am someone who…”) What are 3 things I used to love doing—but haven’t done in a long time? (Which one could I try this week?) When was the last time I felt truly like myself? (What was I doing? Who was I with?) How do I want to feel at this time next year? (Name the emotion first. Then brainstorm what small steps can get you there.) What’s one gentle promise I can make to myself today? (Write it as if you were writing to a friend you love deeply.) “You’re not starting from scratch, you’re starting from experience.”- Pat Key Takeaways - Life transitions can make us forget our identity, but reconnecting is possible, using tools like stillness, curiosity, and reflection. There’s a difference between being alone and choosing healthy solitude. Learning to enjoy your own company is part of healing. Asking “Who am I now?” is brave—and it leads to real growth and clarity. Useful links - 📘 Get your copy of the book: Rebuilding Your Life After a Gray Divorce 🔗 More silver resources here: patfenner.me Leave a message for me - I’d love to hear from you! https://www.speakpipe.com/PatFenner