Episode 349: Control the Inner World - Featuring Curtis McKee
Fri Feb 06 2026
In this episode of The Alpha Male Coach Podcast, Kevin sits down with Curtis McKee, a recent graduate from Class 003 of the Tribe, for a grounded, powerful conversation about what real change actually looks like. Curtis is a traveling boilermaker from Canada, spending long stretches of time working remote camp jobs across northern British Columbia and Alberta, and he brings a rare combination of blue-collar practicality and deep inner development to the table.
Curtis shares how his journey began with a single concept that hit him so hard he had to pull his truck over on the highway just to absorb it: buffering. Not the surface-level distractions themselves, but the deeper reason men reach for them. Like many men, Curtis thought he could numb stress and frustration with a drink or a dopamine hit, but he kept finding the same truth - it never works. And what shocked him most wasn’t just that buffering was happening, but that no one had ever taught him how the mind actually functions.
This episode dives into the difference between trying to control the external world and learning to control what you actually have power over: your internal experience. Curtis explains how mind management gave him something he hadn’t felt in years - stability, clarity, and choice. Not because life became easier, but because he became more conscious. He describes a shift from drifting through life to taking ownership of his thoughts, emotions, and decisions, using the Model of Alignment to label what’s happening inside and create intentional change.
Kevin and Curtis also unpack something most men don’t realize until later in life: this work must be taught, and it must be practiced. You don’t just listen to a podcast and get fixed. You don’t read one book and suddenly become unstoppable. Real transformation requires repetition, feedback, coaching, and community. Curtis shares how even one hour per week of meaningful conversation with like-minded brothers created a foundation of growth, especially when his everyday world was filled with surface-level talk and isolation.
The conversation expands into Curtis’ experience in the Tribe - why he chose to commit, how he balanced long workdays with intense study, and how he discovered something deeper about himself: he’s called to guide others. The episode ends with the story of the Class 003 gathering in Mexico, including ceremony, reflection, challenge, and initiation - culminating in an ice bath that nearly broke him, and a plant medicine experience that revealed something simple, undeniable, and unforgettable:
Everything he was seeking was already within him.
If you’re tired of drifting, tired of reacting, and ready to take ownership of your inner world, this episode will land.
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In this episode of The Alpha Male Coach Podcast, Kevin sits down with Curtis McKee, a recent graduate from Class 003 of the Tribe, for a grounded, powerful conversation about what real change actually looks like. Curtis is a traveling boilermaker from Canada, spending long stretches of time working remote camp jobs across northern British Columbia and Alberta, and he brings a rare combination of blue-collar practicality and deep inner development to the table. Curtis shares how his journey began with a single concept that hit him so hard he had to pull his truck over on the highway just to absorb it: buffering. Not the surface-level distractions themselves, but the deeper reason men reach for them. Like many men, Curtis thought he could numb stress and frustration with a drink or a dopamine hit, but he kept finding the same truth - it never works. And what shocked him most wasn’t just that buffering was happening, but that no one had ever taught him how the mind actually functions. This episode dives into the difference between trying to control the external world and learning to control what you actually have power over: your internal experience. Curtis explains how mind management gave him something he hadn’t felt in years - stability, clarity, and choice. Not because life became easier, but because he became more conscious. He describes a shift from drifting through life to taking ownership of his thoughts, emotions, and decisions, using the Model of Alignment to label what’s happening inside and create intentional change. Kevin and Curtis also unpack something most men don’t realize until later in life: this work must be taught, and it must be practiced. You don’t just listen to a podcast and get fixed. You don’t read one book and suddenly become unstoppable. Real transformation requires repetition, feedback, coaching, and community. Curtis shares how even one hour per week of meaningful conversation with like-minded brothers created a foundation of growth, especially when his everyday world was filled with surface-level talk and isolation. The conversation expands into Curtis’ experience in the Tribe - why he chose to commit, how he balanced long workdays with intense study, and how he discovered something deeper about himself: he’s called to guide others. The episode ends with the story of the Class 003 gathering in Mexico, including ceremony, reflection, challenge, and initiation - culminating in an ice bath that nearly broke him, and a plant medicine experience that revealed something simple, undeniable, and unforgettable: Everything he was seeking was already within him. If you’re tired of drifting, tired of reacting, and ready to take ownership of your inner world, this episode will land.