Staying Connected When Things Get Messy with Bryan Reeves
Thu Jan 08 2026
If intimacy feels harder than it should, this conversation offers a different way of looking at it.
This episode is about staying connected through real emotions, real differences, and the very human messiness of long-term relationships.
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with men's and relationship coach Bryan Reeves. Bryan shares the winding path that led him here—from Air Force captain and corporate executive to relationship coach—after realizing in his late 30s that, despite being successful and well-intentioned, he had never actually learned how to create emotional safety or intimacy. That reckoning, and the heartbreak that came with it, shaped the work he now does with men and couples.
From that lived experience, our conversation explores what helps relationships work in real life:
why rigid masculine/feminine roles often fall apart in practice
how emotional disconnection shows up for men, often without them realizing it
a simple way of bringing awareness into the body instead of shutting down
We talk about shared leadership in relationships, the difference between tolerating and appreciating one another, and why so many long-term conflicts aren't meant to be resolved—but met with more presence, humor, and care.
This episode is an invitation to let go of the idea that good relationships are neat or conflict-free, and to approach intimacy with curiosity, compassion, and a willingness to stay on each other's side—even when it's uncomfortable.
Connect with Bryan Reeves
Website: www.bryanreeves.com
Book: Choose Her Every Day (Or Leave Her)
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If intimacy feels harder than it should, this conversation offers a different way of looking at it. This episode is about staying connected through real emotions, real differences, and the very human messiness of long-term relationships. In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with men's and relationship coach Bryan Reeves. Bryan shares the winding path that led him here—from Air Force captain and corporate executive to relationship coach—after realizing in his late 30s that, despite being successful and well-intentioned, he had never actually learned how to create emotional safety or intimacy. That reckoning, and the heartbreak that came with it, shaped the work he now does with men and couples. From that lived experience, our conversation explores what helps relationships work in real life: why rigid masculine/feminine roles often fall apart in practice how emotional disconnection shows up for men, often without them realizing it a simple way of bringing awareness into the body instead of shutting down We talk about shared leadership in relationships, the difference between tolerating and appreciating one another, and why so many long-term conflicts aren't meant to be resolved—but met with more presence, humor, and care. This episode is an invitation to let go of the idea that good relationships are neat or conflict-free, and to approach intimacy with curiosity, compassion, and a willingness to stay on each other's side—even when it's uncomfortable. Connect with Bryan Reeves Website: www.bryanreeves.com Book: Choose Her Every Day (Or Leave Her) Connect with Deborah Substack: https://substack.com/@deborahkat YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@deborahkat9349 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/deborahtantrakat/ Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94