THE REAL REASON PEOPLE DON'T TAKE YOU SERIOUSLY
Wed Feb 04 2026
Most women are judged within seconds of entering a room—before saying a single word. In this episode, we reveal the science of nonverbal communication and how to be confident instantly without faking it.
Nonverbal specialist Pamela Puja Kirpalani joins us to unpack why body language shapes authority more than words. We discuss the psychology of first impressions, why "confidence" isn't enough, and the specific communication skills you need to command respect at work and in social settings.
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CHAPTERS
00:00 – Episode Snippet
00:55 – Introducing our guest, Pamela Puja Kirpalani
14:32 – Why mindset drives body language
17:43 – Confidence versus congruence
21:33 – How to spot disengagement in others
24:16 – Sponsor Break: Love, Indus
27:00 – The “gesture box” and controlled movement
31:26 – The four components of nonverbal communication
33:42 – Sponsor Break: Cozy Earth
42:52 – Fuel Your Forties: Boiled eggs
44:54 – Reframing perimenopause body cues as useful data
46:58 – The three nonverbal tools for clean exits
51:06 – The 40s formula: Listening to the body before it screams
52:50 – We're allowed to change
🎙️ ABOUT OUR GUEST
Pamela Puja Kirpalani is a nonverbal communication specialist who helps women understand presence without performance. We dive deep into how posture, foot positioning, gestures, and microexpressions influence how others perceive us.
Connect with Puja: @innerhighlivingofficial
👩❤️👩 ABOUT YOUR HOSTS
Jasmin Dhillon (@eat.with.jasmin) is an Integrated Health Strategist dedicated to helping women navigate their wellness journey with clarity.
Amanda Lim (@coachamandalim) is a certified Women’s Health Coach and nutritionist passionate about strength and vitality.
Together, they are the voices behind The Forties Formula, your destination for unfiltered conversations about thriving in your 40s and beyond.
Special Thanks to Our Sponsors:
🥩 The Meat Club – Get $20 off with code TFF20
🛏️ Cozy Earth – Sleep comfortably with soft bamboo sheets and cozy pajamas. Use code TFF for 41% off. Free shipping in Singapore over $560 and in the US over $50.
❤️ Love, Indus: Get 21% off luxury skincare with code TFF
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Stay Connected:
📩 Join our mailing list for exclusive content, our weekly Forty Tude newsletter, expert tips, and early access to giveaways!
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Most women are judged within seconds of entering a room—before saying a single word. In this episode, we reveal the science of nonverbal communication and how to be confident instantly without faking it. Nonverbal specialist Pamela Puja Kirpalani joins us to unpack why body language shapes authority more than words. We discuss the psychology of first impressions, why "confidence" isn't enough, and the specific communication skills you need to command respect at work and in social settings. --------- CHAPTERS 00:00 – Episode Snippet 00:55 – Introducing our guest, Pamela Puja Kirpalani 14:32 – Why mindset drives body language 17:43 – Confidence versus congruence 21:33 – How to spot disengagement in others 24:16 – Sponsor Break: Love, Indus 27:00 – The “gesture box” and controlled movement 31:26 – The four components of nonverbal communication 33:42 – Sponsor Break: Cozy Earth 42:52 – Fuel Your Forties: Boiled eggs 44:54 – Reframing perimenopause body cues as useful data 46:58 – The three nonverbal tools for clean exits 51:06 – The 40s formula: Listening to the body before it screams 52:50 – We're allowed to change 🎙️ ABOUT OUR GUEST Pamela Puja Kirpalani is a nonverbal communication specialist who helps women understand presence without performance. We dive deep into how posture, foot positioning, gestures, and microexpressions influence how others perceive us. Connect with Puja: @innerhighlivingofficial 👩❤️👩 ABOUT YOUR HOSTS Jasmin Dhillon (@eat.with.jasmin) is an Integrated Health Strategist dedicated to helping women navigate their wellness journey with clarity. Amanda Lim (@coachamandalim) is a certified Women’s Health Coach and nutritionist passionate about strength and vitality. Together, they are the voices behind The Forties Formula, your destination for unfiltered conversations about thriving in your 40s and beyond. Special Thanks to Our Sponsors: 🥩 The Meat Club – Get $20 off with code TFF20 🛏️ Cozy Earth – Sleep comfortably with soft bamboo sheets and cozy pajamas. Use code TFF for 41% off. Free shipping in Singapore over $560 and in the US over $50. ❤️ Love, Indus: Get 21% off luxury skincare with code TFF ______________ Stay Connected: 📩 Join our mailing list for exclusive content, our weekly Forty Tude newsletter, expert tips, and early access to giveaways! 📘Free Guide — The Forties Formula Ebook: Your simple, honest guide to what’s changing in your 40s — hormones, cravings, energy, strength and more.