Women 35–55: Why You Might Feel Like You’re Falling Apart
Thu Jan 08 2026
Many women ages 35–55 describe this stage of life as feeling like they are suddenly falling apart. Patience disappears, tolerance drops, exhaustion deepens, sleep becomes disrupted, emotions feel closer to the surface, and the body often hurts more than it used to. For sensitive, autistic, and neurodivergent women, this experience can feel especially intense and confusing.
In this episode, Julie Bjelland, LMFT, explores what is really happening beneath the surface. She explains how perimenopause and menopause affect the brain, nervous system, sleep, pain, and stress tolerance, why estrogen plays such a critical role, and why hormone testing often fails to capture what women are actually experiencing. Julie also discusses the widespread lack of menopause education among doctors, why women are so often dismissed or prescribed antidepressants instead of receiving hormone-informed care, and what current research is saying about hormone therapy.
This episode also explores why midlife can become a “perfect storm” for sensitive, autistic, and ADHD women, why masking often becomes unsustainable, and why so many women discover they are autistic during this stage of life. Julie shares why autism identification is often the missing piece that brings relief, compassion, and clarity, why standardized assessments frequently miss high-masking women, and how neurodiversity-affirming assessments can support deeper self-understanding.
If you’ve been wondering why everything suddenly feels harder, this episode offers validation, education, and hope. You are not broken. Your nervous system is responding to real biological and neurological changes, and understanding what’s happening can be the first step toward relief and more compassionate support.
🌿 Supportive Resources to Explore
Menopause Support for Sensitive and Neurodivergent Women Learn about menopause, nervous system changes, and how to find menopause-informed doctors who understand sensitivity and neurodivergence. https://www.juliebjelland.com/menopause
Autism Assessments for Sensitive and High-Masking AdultsNeurodiversity-affirming autism assessments, especially for women and adults who have learned to mask their differences. https://www.juliebjelland.com/autism-assessments
The Sensitive Autistic Neurotype Resources Free autism quiz, educational guides, and related tools
https://www.juliebjelland.com/autistichsp
The Sensitive & Neurodivergent Community A supportive online space for sensitive, autistic, and neurodivergent adults to connect, learn, and feel understood. https://www.juliebjelland.com/sensitive-empowerment-community
Sensitive & Neurodivergent Therapists Directory Directory of sensitive and neurodivergent therapists https://www.juliebjelland.com/directory
Julie Bjelland, LMFT, is a psychotherapist, author, and the founder of Sensitive Empowerment. She specializes in working with highly sensitive, autistic, ADHD, and neurodivergent adults, with a particular focus on late-identified women and nervous system–informed care. Julie is known for her neurodiversity-affirming approach that centers lived experience, compassion, and deep understanding of how biology, hormones, and the nervous system intersect across the lifespan.
Julie is the host of The Sensitive & Neurodivergent Podcast, a top-ranked global podcast supporting sensitive and neurodivergent people around the world. She offers online courses, community programs, and autism assessments designed specifically for sensitive and high-masking adults, especially women navigating burnout, perimenopause, and major life transitions.
As an autistic and highly sensitive therapist herself, Julie brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. Her mission is to help sensitive and neurodivergent people move from self-blame to self-understanding, and to create a world where differences are recognized as strengths and supported with care.
Learn more at juliebjelland.com.
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Many women ages 35–55 describe this stage of life as feeling like they are suddenly falling apart. Patience disappears, tolerance drops, exhaustion deepens, sleep becomes disrupted, emotions feel closer to the surface, and the body often hurts more than it used to. For sensitive, autistic, and neurodivergent women, this experience can feel especially intense and confusing. In this episode, Julie Bjelland, LMFT, explores what is really happening beneath the surface. She explains how perimenopause and menopause affect the brain, nervous system, sleep, pain, and stress tolerance, why estrogen plays such a critical role, and why hormone testing often fails to capture what women are actually experiencing. Julie also discusses the widespread lack of menopause education among doctors, why women are so often dismissed or prescribed antidepressants instead of receiving hormone-informed care, and what current research is saying about hormone therapy. This episode also explores why midlife can become a “perfect storm” for sensitive, autistic, and ADHD women, why masking often becomes unsustainable, and why so many women discover they are autistic during this stage of life. Julie shares why autism identification is often the missing piece that brings relief, compassion, and clarity, why standardized assessments frequently miss high-masking women, and how neurodiversity-affirming assessments can support deeper self-understanding. If you’ve been wondering why everything suddenly feels harder, this episode offers validation, education, and hope. You are not broken. Your nervous system is responding to real biological and neurological changes, and understanding what’s happening can be the first step toward relief and more compassionate support. 🌿 Supportive Resources to Explore Menopause Support for Sensitive and Neurodivergent Women Learn about menopause, nervous system changes, and how to find menopause-informed doctors who understand sensitivity and neurodivergence. https://www.juliebjelland.com/menopause Autism Assessments for Sensitive and High-Masking AdultsNeurodiversity-affirming autism assessments, especially for women and adults who have learned to mask their differences. https://www.juliebjelland.com/autism-assessments The Sensitive Autistic Neurotype Resources Free autism quiz, educational guides, and related tools https://www.juliebjelland.com/autistichsp The Sensitive & Neurodivergent Community A supportive online space for sensitive, autistic, and neurodivergent adults to connect, learn, and feel understood. https://www.juliebjelland.com/sensitive-empowerment-community Sensitive & Neurodivergent Therapists Directory Directory of sensitive and neurodivergent therapists https://www.juliebjelland.com/directory Julie Bjelland, LMFT, is a psychotherapist, author, and the founder of Sensitive Empowerment. She specializes in working with highly sensitive, autistic, ADHD, and neurodivergent adults, with a particular focus on late-identified women and nervous system–informed care. Julie is known for her neurodiversity-affirming approach that centers lived experience, compassion, and deep understanding of how biology, hormones, and the nervous system intersect across the lifespan. Julie is the host of The Sensitive & Neurodivergent Podcast, a top-ranked global podcast supporting sensitive and neurodivergent people around the world. She offers online courses, community programs, and autism assessments designed specifically for sensitive and high-masking adults, especially women navigating burnout, perimenopause, and major life transitions. As an autistic and highly sensitive therapist herself, Julie brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. Her mission is to help sensitive and neurodivergent people move from self-blame to self-understanding, and to create a world where differences are recognized as strengths and supported with care. Learn more at juliebjelland.com.