Can You Really Break the Anxious Avoidant Cycle?
Wed Jul 09 2025
In this episode, Kirsty van den Bulk interviews Amy Jones, an attachment specialist and certified attachment style coach. Amy helps people with anxious attachment style issues begin their emotional healing journeys and build stronger, healthier relationships using attachment theory.Are you stuck in the anxious avoidant cycle—craving closeness but pulling away when it feels too much? 💔 You’re not alone.In this conversation, Amy reveals:✔ What the anxious avoidant cycle is and why it happens✔ How anxious and avoidant attachment styles trigger each other✔ The role of childhood trauma in adult relationships✔ Steps to break free from unhealthy patterns✔ How to build secure attachment, emotional safety, and lasting loveBy understanding your attachment style, you can develop emotional intelligence, improve communication, and finally move toward secure, loving connections.💡 Topics Covered:Anxious avoidant attachment explainedHow attachment theory impacts love and datingHealing anxious and avoidant attachment woundsBreaking trauma bonds and toxic cyclesBuilding secure, mindful, and emotionally safe relationships👉 Watch now to learn more about Amy’s coaching practice and discover how to break free from the anxious avoidant cycle. 💕Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:45 Understanding the four attachment styles03:20 Why anxious and avoidant types attract08:15 Amy’s personal journey13:40 Attachment trauma and the role of reparenting21:00 Letting go of people-pleasing27:30 Forgiveness, boundaries, and self-love34:00 Starting her YouTube channel “Selfish” to help others heal💬 Quotes to Remember:“Everybody on the planet has an attachment style.”“Forgiveness is for you, not the other person.”🧠 Learn more about the psychology of attachment trauma, healing, and how to build emotional safety in relationships.🎥 Amy’s Channel: Selfishhttps://www.youtube.com/@selfishwithamy📝 Read more about how I coach:https://kvdb.co.uk/blog-confidently-speaking-by-kirsty-van-den-bulk/🎟️ Explore upcoming events and workshops:https://kvdb.newzenler.com/courses/public-speaking-and-presenting-on-camera-masterclass/buy#AttachmentStyles #AnxiousAttachment #HealingJourneyContact Kirsty: www.kvdb.co.uk
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In this episode, Kirsty van den Bulk interviews Amy Jones, an attachment specialist and certified attachment style coach. Amy helps people with anxious attachment style issues begin their emotional healing journeys and build stronger, healthier relationships using attachment theory.Are you stuck in the anxious avoidant cycle—craving closeness but pulling away when it feels too much? 💔 You’re not alone.In this conversation, Amy reveals:✔ What the anxious avoidant cycle is and why it happens✔ How anxious and avoidant attachment styles trigger each other✔ The role of childhood trauma in adult relationships✔ Steps to break free from unhealthy patterns✔ How to build secure attachment, emotional safety, and lasting loveBy understanding your attachment style, you can develop emotional intelligence, improve communication, and finally move toward secure, loving connections.💡 Topics Covered:Anxious avoidant attachment explainedHow attachment theory impacts love and datingHealing anxious and avoidant attachment woundsBreaking trauma bonds and toxic cyclesBuilding secure, mindful, and emotionally safe relationships👉 Watch now to learn more about Amy’s coaching practice and discover how to break free from the anxious avoidant cycle. 💕Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:45 Understanding the four attachment styles03:20 Why anxious and avoidant types attract08:15 Amy’s personal journey13:40 Attachment trauma and the role of reparenting21:00 Letting go of people-pleasing27:30 Forgiveness, boundaries, and self-love34:00 Starting her YouTube channel “Selfish” to help others heal💬 Quotes to Remember:“Everybody on the planet has an attachment style.”“Forgiveness is for you, not the other person.”🧠 Learn more about the psychology of attachment trauma, healing, and how to build emotional safety in relationships.🎥 Amy’s Channel: Selfishhttps://www.youtube.com/@selfishwithamy📝 Read more about how I coach:https://kvdb.co.uk/blog-confidently-speaking-by-kirsty-van-den-bulk/🎟️ Explore upcoming events and workshops:https://kvdb.newzenler.com/courses/public-speaking-and-presenting-on-camera-masterclass/buy#AttachmentStyles #AnxiousAttachment #HealingJourneyContact Kirsty: www.kvdb.co.uk