Staying Because of The Kids and Leaving for Them
Sat Jan 24 2026
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Summary: In this episode, we talk about why survivors stay so long in narcissistic and abusive relationships, and how kids can change the decision. Sara shares what it was like when her children finally told her what was happening behind the scenes, how isolation and self-doubt keep parents stuck, and what recovery looks like when a parent and kids become a team.
Takeaways
- The impact of children can be a significant reason for staying in toxic relationships.
- Narcissistic parenting can severely affect children's mental health and development.
- Emotional abuse often leads to isolation from family and friends.
- Recognizing the signs of emotional abuse is crucial for recovery.
- Leaving an abusive partner is a complex and challenging process.
- Support from family and friends is vital during recovery.
- It's important to prioritize mental health over the idea of keeping a family together.
- Children are perceptive and can sense the dynamics of their parents' relationship.
- Rebuilding relationships after leaving an abusive partner is possible and necessary.
- Trusting one's intuition is key in forming new friendships and relationships.
Chapters
00:00
Welcome to Two Queens in a Joker
00:34
Why Do We Stay in Toxic Relationships?
02:38
The Impact of Children on Relationships
07:40
Recognizing Narcissistic Behavior
11:24
The Struggles of Leaving
15:48
Legal Challenges and Moving On
23:36
Finding Support and Rebuilding Relationships
26:20
Closing Thoughts and Future Topics
26:36
Golden Grass
Narcissistic abuse leaves deep imprints on trust, relationships, and identity. Survivors often feel isolated, anxious, and hypervigilant. But healing is possible. By rebuilding self-trust, noticing patterns, and taking small, steady steps toward connection, survivors can slowly allow safe people back into their lives.
The scars remain, but they don’t define the future. Survivors are not broken, they are rebuilding.
We specialize in helping survivors untangle the patterns of narcissistic abuse and recover their sense of self. Learn more at www.narctrauma.com.
Follow for support and resources:
Facebook: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Center
TikTok: @narctraumarecovery
Instagram (Podcast): @2queensandajoker
Instagram (Recovery): @narcrecoverycenter
Two Queens and a Joker, My Narcissist Ex and Me is sponsored by the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Center, where we provide therapy, classes, and support groups for people healing from narcissistic abuse. Contact us at www.narctrauma.com.
Narcissistic abuse leaves deep imprints on trust, relationships, and identity. Survivors often feel isolated, anxious, and hypervigilant. But healing is possible. By rebuilding self-trust, noticing patterns, and taking small, steady steps toward connection, survivors can slowly allow safe people back into their lives.
The scars remain, but they don’t define the future. Survivors are not broken, they are rebuilding.
We specialize in helping survivors untangle the patterns of narcissistic abuse and recover their sense of self. Learn more at www.narctrauma.com.
Follow for support and resources:
Facebook: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Center
TikTok: @narctraumarecovery
Instagram (Podcast): @2queensandajoker
Instagram (Recovery): @narcrecoverycenter
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Send us a text Summary: In this episode, we talk about why survivors stay so long in narcissistic and abusive relationships, and how kids can change the decision. Sara shares what it was like when her children finally told her what was happening behind the scenes, how isolation and self-doubt keep parents stuck, and what recovery looks like when a parent and kids become a team. Takeaways - The impact of children can be a significant reason for staying in toxic relationships. - Narcissistic parenting can severely affect children's mental health and development. - Emotional abuse often leads to isolation from family and friends. - Recognizing the signs of emotional abuse is crucial for recovery. - Leaving an abusive partner is a complex and challenging process. - Support from family and friends is vital during recovery. - It's important to prioritize mental health over the idea of keeping a family together. - Children are perceptive and can sense the dynamics of their parents' relationship. - Rebuilding relationships after leaving an abusive partner is possible and necessary. - Trusting one's intuition is key in forming new friendships and relationships. Chapters 00:00 Welcome to Two Queens in a Joker 00:34 Why Do We Stay in Toxic Relationships? 02:38 The Impact of Children on Relationships 07:40 Recognizing Narcissistic Behavior 11:24 The Struggles of Leaving 15:48 Legal Challenges and Moving On 23:36 Finding Support and Rebuilding Relationships 26:20 Closing Thoughts and Future Topics 26:36 Golden Grass Narcissistic abuse leaves deep imprints on trust, relationships, and identity. Survivors often feel isolated, anxious, and hypervigilant. But healing is possible. By rebuilding self-trust, noticing patterns, and taking small, steady steps toward connection, survivors can slowly allow safe people back into their lives. The scars remain, but they don’t define the future. Survivors are not broken, they are rebuilding. We specialize in helping survivors untangle the patterns of narcissistic abuse and recover their sense of self. Learn more at www.narctrauma.com. Follow for support and resources: Facebook: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Center TikTok: @narctraumarecovery Instagram (Podcast): @2queensandajoker Instagram (Recovery): @narcrecoverycenter Two Queens and a Joker, My Narcissist Ex and Me is sponsored by the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Center, where we provide therapy, classes, and support groups for people healing from narcissistic abuse. Contact us at www.narctrauma.com. Narcissistic abuse leaves deep imprints on trust, relationships, and identity. Survivors often feel isolated, anxious, and hypervigilant. But healing is possible. By rebuilding self-trust, noticing patterns, and taking small, steady steps toward connection, survivors can slowly allow safe people back into their lives. The scars remain, but they don’t define the future. Survivors are not broken, they are rebuilding. We specialize in helping survivors untangle the patterns of narcissistic abuse and recover their sense of self. Learn more at www.narctrauma.com. Follow for support and resources: Facebook: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Center TikTok: @narctraumarecovery Instagram (Podcast): @2queensandajoker Instagram (Recovery): @narcrecoverycenter