The Hidden Cost of Raising “Well-Behaved” Kids with Katherine Sellery [97]
Wed Sep 03 2025
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In this episode, I talk with Katherine Sellery, parenting coach, TEDx speaker, and founder of the Conscious Parenting Revolution, about one of the most common but harmful goals in parenting: obedience.
Katherine explains why raising “well-behaved” kids—children who never rock the boat and always put others’ comfort before their own—can actually lead to self-betrayal and long-term struggles with confidence, boundaries, and safety. Instead of seeking obedience, we can raise kids who:
Respect themselves and othersTrust their own inner voiceCan safely say “no” when needed (the #1 protective factor against harm)Feel seen, valued, and respected as individualsWe also explore what happens when parents swing too far into permissiveness, how to set limits without falling back on control and punishment, and why parents need to trust themselves while still learning new tools.
This is a conversation that will challenge the way you think about “good behavior” and give you a vision for raising children who are both respectful and deeply connected to themselves.
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Send us a text In this episode, I talk with Katherine Sellery, parenting coach, TEDx speaker, and founder of the Conscious Parenting Revolution, about one of the most common but harmful goals in parenting: obedience. Katherine explains why raising “well-behaved” kids—children who never rock the boat and always put others’ comfort before their own—can actually lead to self-betrayal and long-term struggles with confidence, boundaries, and safety. Instead of seeking obedience, we can raise kids who: Respect themselves and othersTrust their own inner voiceCan safely say “no” when needed (the #1 protective factor against harm)Feel seen, valued, and respected as individualsWe also explore what happens when parents swing too far into permissiveness, how to set limits without falling back on control and punishment, and why parents need to trust themselves while still learning new tools. This is a conversation that will challenge the way you think about “good behavior” and give you a vision for raising children who are both respectful and deeply connected to themselves. Connect with Katherine MORE FROM BILLY FREE resources: 20 Ways to Enhance Your Child's Self-Esteem Support the show with a one time donation. Visit my ko-fi page Follow me on Instagram @ your_childs_full_potential to stay updated about upcoming episodes and behind-the-scenes content. Like my page on Facebook Subscribe to the show on Youtube Visit the website unlockyourchildsfullpotential.com to explore additional resources related to this episode and to sign up for our email list.