120. SFMD After Dark Part 1 - Desire, Arousal & Why You’re Totally Normal
Thu Feb 05 2026
What if nothing is “wrong” with you… your body is just changing?
In this first episode of a three-part series, Dr. Stacy dives into a topic most women were never taught about: how desire and arousal actually work as we age — and why so many women feel confused, broken, or disconnected when things change.
This conversation was inspired by a recent live event for Sugar Free MD After Dark, where women asked honest, powerful questions about sex, intimacy, and what’s normal in midlife. Spoiler: a lot of what you’re experiencing is completely normal — and fixable.
In Part 1, Dr. Stacy breaks down:
The difference between spontaneous vs. reactive desire (and why spontaneous desire naturally fades)Why arousal doesn’t always start in your head anymore — and why that’s okayThe 5 domains that influence sexual desire (physical, mental, relational, cultural, and environmental)How stress, mental load, sleep, medications, and body changes impact libidoWhy pressure kills desire — and how desire mismatch affects relationshipsHow emotional discomfort can drive overeating and impact weight lossWhy planning intimacy doesn’t make it “fake” — it makes it possibleIf you’ve ever thought:
“I love my partner, but I don’t feel like I used to”“Something must be wrong with my hormones”“Why do I never want sex anymore?”This episode will help you understand what’s really going on — without shame, hype, or oversimplified answers.
🧠 Important reminder: This episode is educational, not medical advice. Take what you learn here into informed conversations with your doctor.
👉 Coming next week in Part 2:
We’ll talk anatomy, hormones, vaginal health, and answer real questions from the live event — including what actually helps and what doesn’t.
📩 Questions or thoughts after listening?
Email: drstacy@sugarfreemd.com or admin@sugarfreemd.com
Free 2-Pound Plan Call!
Want to jump start your weight loss? Schedule a free call where Dr. Stacy Heimburger will work with you to create a personalized plan to lose 2 pounds in one week, factoring in your unique circumstances, challenges, and aspirations. Schedule now! www.sugarfreemd.com/2pound
This episode was produced by The Podcast Teacher: www.ThePodcastTeacher.com.
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What if nothing is “wrong” with you… your body is just changing? In this first episode of a three-part series, Dr. Stacy dives into a topic most women were never taught about: how desire and arousal actually work as we age — and why so many women feel confused, broken, or disconnected when things change. This conversation was inspired by a recent live event for Sugar Free MD After Dark, where women asked honest, powerful questions about sex, intimacy, and what’s normal in midlife. Spoiler: a lot of what you’re experiencing is completely normal — and fixable. In Part 1, Dr. Stacy breaks down: The difference between spontaneous vs. reactive desire (and why spontaneous desire naturally fades)Why arousal doesn’t always start in your head anymore — and why that’s okayThe 5 domains that influence sexual desire (physical, mental, relational, cultural, and environmental)How stress, mental load, sleep, medications, and body changes impact libidoWhy pressure kills desire — and how desire mismatch affects relationshipsHow emotional discomfort can drive overeating and impact weight lossWhy planning intimacy doesn’t make it “fake” — it makes it possibleIf you’ve ever thought: “I love my partner, but I don’t feel like I used to”“Something must be wrong with my hormones”“Why do I never want sex anymore?”This episode will help you understand what’s really going on — without shame, hype, or oversimplified answers. 🧠 Important reminder: This episode is educational, not medical advice. Take what you learn here into informed conversations with your doctor. 👉 Coming next week in Part 2: We’ll talk anatomy, hormones, vaginal health, and answer real questions from the live event — including what actually helps and what doesn’t. 📩 Questions or thoughts after listening? Email: drstacy@sugarfreemd.com or admin@sugarfreemd.com Free 2-Pound Plan Call! Want to jump start your weight loss? Schedule a free call where Dr. Stacy Heimburger will work with you to create a personalized plan to lose 2 pounds in one week, factoring in your unique circumstances, challenges, and aspirations. Schedule now! www.sugarfreemd.com/2pound This episode was produced by The Podcast Teacher: www.ThePodcastTeacher.com.