285: Relational vs Transactional Marriage: What's the Difference & Why It Matters
Mon Feb 02 2026
Is your marriage relational… or transactional?
Do you give to your spouse freely — or only when you expect something back?
Many couples unintentionally keep score. "I did this, so you should do that." But healthy relationships aren't vending machines. They're built on connection, presence, vulnerability, and genuine care.
In this conversation, Nina and Kyle explore:
• The difference between relational and transactional love
• Why keeping score quietly damages intimacy
• How conditional thinking sneaks into marriage
• What emotional availability really looks like
• Practical ways to become more present, authentic, and connected
• How to grow if relationships don't come naturally to you
If you want a marriage marked by trust, grace, and real connection — not tit-for-tat exchanges — this episode is for you.
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Is your marriage relational… or transactional? Do you give to your spouse freely — or only when you expect something back? Many couples unintentionally keep score. "I did this, so you should do that." But healthy relationships aren't vending machines. They're built on connection, presence, vulnerability, and genuine care. In this conversation, Nina and Kyle explore: • The difference between relational and transactional love • Why keeping score quietly damages intimacy • How conditional thinking sneaks into marriage • What emotional availability really looks like • Practical ways to become more present, authentic, and connected • How to grow if relationships don't come naturally to you If you want a marriage marked by trust, grace, and real connection — not tit-for-tat exchanges — this episode is for you.