73: They’re Not Your Friends--How Drinking and Drug Buddies Hold You Back
Mon Feb 02 2026
What if your loudest friendships were really reinforcing your worst habits—and real connection began when you chose to stand apart? This conversation breaks down the emotional reality of sobriety: why leaving drinking buddies hurts, how addiction skews loyalty, and what it takes to build relationships that protect your future instead of your impulses.
Steven shares the hard truth of realizing that the people he once drank with disappeared when the high was gone. We unpack “water seeks its level” as a practical way to evaluate friendships and confront the social pressure that keeps people drinking even when no one wants to. Choosing rest, clarity, and early mornings isn’t boring—it’s an advantage, with real payoffs like better sleep, lower anxiety, and aligned values.
We reframe friendship with one simple test: who would you call in a crisis, and who would actually answer? You’ll hear clear scripts for saying no, ways to replace trigger-heavy environments, and why fewer, stronger relationships matter more than a full contact list. Stay true to your boundaries, and you’ll attract people who respect them—not ones who depend on you ignoring them.
Helpful Links:
Learn more about Restore Detox Centers
Filling the Void book by Steven T. Ginsburg
Overcoming the Fear and Lies of Addiction e-book
How to Love and Set Boundaries Without Enabling Addiction e-book
Call Us for Addiction Recovery: 1-800-982-5530
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Welcome to the Addiction Recovery podcast, brought to you by Restore Detox Centers. We are dedicated to providing valuable and insightful information on addiction recovery. However, it is essential to understand that the content shared in this podcast is intended for educational purposes only. While we strive to ensure the accuracy and reliability of the information presented, we cannot guarantee its completeness or suitability for individual circumstances. The topics discussed in this podcast are based on general knowledge and should not be considered a substitute for professional advice or treatment.
It is important to note that the views and opinions expressed by the podcast hosts, guests, or contributors are their own and may not necessarily reflect the views of Restore Detox Centers. We strongly advise listeners to consult with qualified professionals, such as addiction counselors, therapists, or medical practitioners, before making any decisions or taking any actions based on the information provided in this podcast. Please be aware that listening to this podcast does not establish a client-provider relationship with Restore Detox Centers.
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What if your loudest friendships were really reinforcing your worst habits—and real connection began when you chose to stand apart? This conversation breaks down the emotional reality of sobriety: why leaving drinking buddies hurts, how addiction skews loyalty, and what it takes to build relationships that protect your future instead of your impulses. Steven shares the hard truth of realizing that the people he once drank with disappeared when the high was gone. We unpack “water seeks its level” as a practical way to evaluate friendships and confront the social pressure that keeps people drinking even when no one wants to. Choosing rest, clarity, and early mornings isn’t boring—it’s an advantage, with real payoffs like better sleep, lower anxiety, and aligned values. We reframe friendship with one simple test: who would you call in a crisis, and who would actually answer? You’ll hear clear scripts for saying no, ways to replace trigger-heavy environments, and why fewer, stronger relationships matter more than a full contact list. Stay true to your boundaries, and you’ll attract people who respect them—not ones who depend on you ignoring them. Helpful Links: Learn more about Restore Detox Centers Filling the Void book by Steven T. Ginsburg Overcoming the Fear and Lies of Addiction e-book How to Love and Set Boundaries Without Enabling Addiction e-book Call Us for Addiction Recovery: 1-800-982-5530 DISCLAIMER: Welcome to the Addiction Recovery podcast, brought to you by Restore Detox Centers. We are dedicated to providing valuable and insightful information on addiction recovery. However, it is essential to understand that the content shared in this podcast is intended for educational purposes only. While we strive to ensure the accuracy and reliability of the information presented, we cannot guarantee its completeness or suitability for individual circumstances. The topics discussed in this podcast are based on general knowledge and should not be considered a substitute for professional advice or treatment. It is important to note that the views and opinions expressed by the podcast hosts, guests, or contributors are their own and may not necessarily reflect the views of Restore Detox Centers. We strongly advise listeners to consult with qualified professionals, such as addiction counselors, therapists, or medical practitioners, before making any decisions or taking any actions based on the information provided in this podcast. Please be aware that listening to this podcast does not establish a client-provider relationship with Restore Detox Centers.