Your Child Isn’t Motivated? Don’t Push—Do This
Thu Feb 05 2026
👉 Join The Parenting Wisdom Community FB group to continue the conversation:https://www.facebook.com/share/g/17mDYDmSNa/👉 Join my newsletter to receive weekly parenting insights and updates here: https://www.efratamira.com/newsletterIs your child "lazy," or is something else going on?
In this episode, parenting coach Efrat Amira deconstructs the myth of the unmotivated child. If you’re tired of the constant nagging, bribing, and power struggles over homework, chores, and screen time, this episode offers a refreshing, ancient-wisdom-inspired framework to help your child find their inner drive.Efrat breaks down the five primary killers of motivation in modern children and provides practical, actionable steps to shift the responsibility back to the child—allowing them to develop a true sense of agency and purpose.In this episode, you’ll learn:* Why "doing everything" for your child is actually destroying their motivation.* The concept of Agency and how to effectively hand over responsibility without feeling like you're "giving up."* How to shift a child’s mindset from "What’s in it for me?" to "What can I contribute?"* The surprising benefit of "depriving" your children of instant gratification.* How to connect your child to a sense of meaning through family narrative and tradition.Chapters:00:00 Understanding Children's Lack of Motivation00:52 How Lack of Motivation Looks Like01:07 5 Reasons Children Lose Motivation01:29 The Power of Agency: Letting Go of Control03:07 The Role of Responsibility in Motivation04:10 From Self-Centeredness to Contribution06:56 The "Easy Life" Trap08:45 Connecting to Meaning and Narrative10:12 Impact and Leadership
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👉 Join The Parenting Wisdom Community FB group to continue the conversation:https://www.facebook.com/share/g/17mDYDmSNa/👉 Join my newsletter to receive weekly parenting insights and updates here: https://www.efratamira.com/newsletterIs your child "lazy," or is something else going on? In this episode, parenting coach Efrat Amira deconstructs the myth of the unmotivated child. If you’re tired of the constant nagging, bribing, and power struggles over homework, chores, and screen time, this episode offers a refreshing, ancient-wisdom-inspired framework to help your child find their inner drive.Efrat breaks down the five primary killers of motivation in modern children and provides practical, actionable steps to shift the responsibility back to the child—allowing them to develop a true sense of agency and purpose.In this episode, you’ll learn:* Why "doing everything" for your child is actually destroying their motivation.* The concept of Agency and how to effectively hand over responsibility without feeling like you're "giving up."* How to shift a child’s mindset from "What’s in it for me?" to "What can I contribute?"* The surprising benefit of "depriving" your children of instant gratification.* How to connect your child to a sense of meaning through family narrative and tradition.Chapters:00:00 Understanding Children's Lack of Motivation00:52 How Lack of Motivation Looks Like01:07 5 Reasons Children Lose Motivation01:29 The Power of Agency: Letting Go of Control03:07 The Role of Responsibility in Motivation04:10 From Self-Centeredness to Contribution06:56 The "Easy Life" Trap08:45 Connecting to Meaning and Narrative10:12 Impact and Leadership