065|When Your Wife Loves Something You Don’t—Now What?
Tue Feb 03 2026
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Small moments like choosing a movie can carry more weight than they should when one of you is excited and the other is not. Over time, those moments can quietly shrink the shared space in a marriage if you start taking differences personally or pulling back.
In this episode, Angelo introduces the “love Venn diagram” and explains how connection grows when you honor three spaces at once: your circle, her circle, and the overlap. You’ll learn how to stay connected inside differences, enjoy her joy without pretending to share her interests, keep investing in your own joy, and intentionally grow shared joy in small repeatable ways.
🔑 What You’ll Learn in This Episode
✅ How differences in interests create distance when they start feeling personal
✅ What the “love Venn diagram” is and how it applies to marriage
✅ How to love her joy without pretending to love the thing
✅ Why your own circle matters and how it affects how you show up
✅ How the overlap grows through small consistent moments of shared joy
💡 Key Takeaway
A strong marriage does not require you to love the same things. It requires learning how to stay connected inside differences by honoring your circle, her circle, and intentionally feeding the overlap through small consistent moments of shared joy.
🔨 Action Steps This Week
1⃣ Say out loud one thing you and your wife already do that makes you feel connected.
Take one of the things you named earlier, one of those moments where you and your wife already feel connected and say it out loud. Let her know you've noticed. And then this week, create space for that moment on purpose. Put it on your calendar if you need to. Don't wait for it to happen naturally. Decide that it matters enough to make room for.
2⃣ Pay attention to something that lives in her circle and respond to her joy.
Pay attention to something that lives in her circle, something that lights her up, even if it's not something that excites you. Notice what changes in her when she talks about it, and see if you can respond with genuine excitement for her, not about the thing but about her. Let her feel that you're glad she has something that fills her up.
3⃣ Make sure you are tending to your own circle this week.
Make sure you are also tending to your own circle this week. Give some energy to something that grounds you. Not as a way to pull away from your marriage, but so you come back to it steadier more present and with more to give.
🧠 Reflection Questions:
❓ What are one to three things you and your wife do together right now that make you feel connected, bring you both joy and genuinely elevate your relationship?
Ready to Take Action?
🚨 Watch the FREE Better Husband Workshop → BetterHusbandSecrets.com
Questions?
📩 Email Me → angelo@angelosantiago.com
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🚨 Watch the FREE Better Husband Workshop to learn Angelo's 3 Secrets to Becoming a Better Husband Without Endless Therapy, Hating the Process, or Pretending to Be Someone You're Not at www.BetterHusbandSecrets.com - Small moments like choosing a movie can carry more weight than they should when one of you is excited and the other is not. Over time, those moments can quietly shrink the shared space in a marriage if you start taking differences personally or pulling back. In this episode, Angelo introduces the “love Venn diagram” and explains how connection grows when you honor three spaces at once: your circle, her circle, and the overlap. You’ll learn how to stay connected inside differences, enjoy her joy without pretending to share her interests, keep investing in your own joy, and intentionally grow shared joy in small repeatable ways. 🔑 What You’ll Learn in This Episode ✅ How differences in interests create distance when they start feeling personal ✅ What the “love Venn diagram” is and how it applies to marriage ✅ How to love her joy without pretending to love the thing ✅ Why your own circle matters and how it affects how you show up ✅ How the overlap grows through small consistent moments of shared joy 💡 Key Takeaway A strong marriage does not require you to love the same things. It requires learning how to stay connected inside differences by honoring your circle, her circle, and intentionally feeding the overlap through small consistent moments of shared joy. 🔨 Action Steps This Week 1⃣ Say out loud one thing you and your wife already do that makes you feel connected. Take one of the things you named earlier, one of those moments where you and your wife already feel connected and say it out loud. Let her know you've noticed. And then this week, create space for that moment on purpose. Put it on your calendar if you need to. Don't wait for it to happen naturally. Decide that it matters enough to make room for. 2⃣ Pay attention to something that lives in her circle and respond to her joy. Pay attention to something that lives in her circle, something that lights her up, even if it's not something that excites you. Notice what changes in her when she talks about it, and see if you can respond with genuine excitement for her, not about the thing but about her. Let her feel that you're glad she has something that fills her up. 3⃣ Make sure you are tending to your own circle this week. Make sure you are also tending to your own circle this week. Give some energy to something that grounds you. Not as a way to pull away from your marriage, but so you come back to it steadier more present and with more to give. 🧠 Reflection Questions: ❓ What are one to three things you and your wife do together right now that make you feel connected, bring you both joy and genuinely elevate your relationship? Ready to Take Action? 🚨 Watch the FREE Better Husband Workshop → BetterHusbandSecrets.com Questions? 📩 Email Me → angelo@angelosantiago.com