Staying Calm and Powerful as your Superpower: Mastering Your Response to Disrespect
Wed Feb 04 2026
This episode explores how staying calm when disrespected is not a matter of willpower or personality, but of nervous-system regulation. Drawing from chiropractic, neurological, and life-coaching perspectives, it explains why disrespect triggers fight-or-flight responses in the body before the mind can think clearly. The episode teaches listeners to regulate the body first—through breathing, posture, and grounding—so the brain can regain clarity and self-control. Calm is reframed as a physiological state that can be trained, not an emotional suppression or passive response.
The second half addresses what to do when calm is not respected. It explains why some people escalate when they encounter calm and how this reveals their inability to self-regulate. Listeners are guided to shift from emotional regulation to containment, using clear boundaries, reduced engagement, silence paired with action, and, when necessary, physical or relational distance. The episode concludes by emphasizing that calm combined with firm boundaries reshapes both personal identity and relationships, teaching the nervous system that safety does not require approval—and that self-control is the deepest form of strength.
Dr. Fred Clary, founder of Functional Analysis Chiropractic Technique and lifting/life coach/ gym-chalk covered philosopher talks about Mastering Your Response to Disrespect!
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This episode explores how staying calm when disrespected is not a matter of willpower or personality, but of nervous-system regulation. Drawing from chiropractic, neurological, and life-coaching perspectives, it explains why disrespect triggers fight-or-flight responses in the body before the mind can think clearly. The episode teaches listeners to regulate the body first—through breathing, posture, and grounding—so the brain can regain clarity and self-control. Calm is reframed as a physiological state that can be trained, not an emotional suppression or passive response. The second half addresses what to do when calm is not respected. It explains why some people escalate when they encounter calm and how this reveals their inability to self-regulate. Listeners are guided to shift from emotional regulation to containment, using clear boundaries, reduced engagement, silence paired with action, and, when necessary, physical or relational distance. The episode concludes by emphasizing that calm combined with firm boundaries reshapes both personal identity and relationships, teaching the nervous system that safety does not require approval—and that self-control is the deepest form of strength. Dr. Fred Clary, founder of Functional Analysis Chiropractic Technique and lifting/life coach/ gym-chalk covered philosopher talks about Mastering Your Response to Disrespect!