462: Overthinking Is a Trauma Response: Why High-Achieving Women Still Don’t Trust Themselves
Wed Feb 04 2026
Breaking down the psychology and somatics behind why AND how to actually change it ||
In today’s episode, Monica’s talking about why overthinking develops, how it impacts decision-making, leadership, relationships, and why high-achieving women are especially prone to it. You’ll also learn how overthinking is linked to perfectionism, people-pleasing, fear of failure, the fear of being seen, and a lack of internal safety—and what actually needs to shift to stop spiraling and start trusting yourself.
She goes deep into:
🪞 Why overthinking is a trauma response, not a personality flaw
🪞 How it becomes a survival strategy to avoid mistakes or judgment
🪞 The loop between overthinking, perfectionism, and decision paralysis
🪞 How leadership, performance pressure, and public visibility create trauma
🪞 How fear of being seen or misinterpreted drives people-pleasing at work
🪞 Why corporate culture and cancellation fear condition you to self-silence
🪞 The difference between intuition and trauma-based fear
🪞 Why mindset work isn’t enough to stop spiraling—and what actually works
🪞 A simple “no BS” test to know if you actually stand behind what you’re saying
🪞 How overthinking damages relationships, creates resentment, and kills polarity
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⇢ Listen to the episode — 385: How to Not Lose Your Independence When You’re in Your Feminine Energy:
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Breaking down the psychology and somatics behind why AND how to actually change it || In today’s episode, Monica’s talking about why overthinking develops, how it impacts decision-making, leadership, relationships, and why high-achieving women are especially prone to it. You’ll also learn how overthinking is linked to perfectionism, people-pleasing, fear of failure, the fear of being seen, and a lack of internal safety—and what actually needs to shift to stop spiraling and start trusting yourself. She goes deep into: 🪞 Why overthinking is a trauma response, not a personality flaw 🪞 How it becomes a survival strategy to avoid mistakes or judgment 🪞 The loop between overthinking, perfectionism, and decision paralysis 🪞 How leadership, performance pressure, and public visibility create trauma 🪞 How fear of being seen or misinterpreted drives people-pleasing at work 🪞 Why corporate culture and cancellation fear condition you to self-silence 🪞 The difference between intuition and trauma-based fear 🪞 Why mindset work isn’t enough to stop spiraling—and what actually works 🪞 A simple “no BS” test to know if you actually stand behind what you’re saying 🪞 How overthinking damages relationships, creates resentment, and kills polarity +++++ As Mentioned In The Episode: ⇢ Hop on the waitlist — The Immersion:https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/immersion?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=immersion-2026 ⇢ Listen to the episode — 385: How to Not Lose Your Independence When You’re in Your Feminine Energy: https://monicayateshealth.com/blogs/podcast/385-nugget-how-to-not-lose-your-independence-when-you-re-in-your-feminine-energy ⇢ Sign up for Monica’s monthly newsletter — The Boardroom & Bedroom Diaries: https://monica-yates-health.kit.com/54f5a9ff86 ⇢ Order the BOOK — Becoming HER:https://www.becomingherbook.com/ ⇢ Monica’s Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/monicayateshealth ⇢ Full, SEARCHABLE Podcast Directory:https://monicayateshealth.com/blogs/feminine-as-f-ck-podcast/podcast-directory Remember to leave a written review on Apple Podcasts, screenshot it before you submit it, and email it to us at media@monicayateshealth.com to receive an exclusive meditation track as a 'thank you' from Monica. This podcast and its content is copyright of Monica Yates Health © and Feminine as F*ck ©. All rights reserved. ||https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/copyright-disclaimer