275: Did Being Fat Steal Your Femininity?
Wed Jan 21 2026
I recently read something that stopped me in my tracks: being fat robbed me of my femininity.
And I haven’t been able to shake it.
In this episode, I pose a question that came out of a Reddit thread but really speaks to a shared experience so many of us quietly lived: growing up, did femininity ever feel like it wasn’t meant for you?
I’m sharing my own experiences of being invisible next to friends, being talked about like I wasn’t even a person, not being able to shop where other girls shopped, missing out on certain “girlhood” moments, and learning very early on which bodies were allowed to be soft, desired, and feminine and which weren’t.
We’ll talk about how those moments shape us long after childhood, how confidence can coexist with old wounds, and what it actually looks like to take your femininity back without performing it or earning permission.
If you’ve ever felt like girlhood passed you by, or like femininity came with conditions you didn’t meet, this episode is for you. You’re not alone—and you didn’t imagine it.
Show Notes!🗒Enroll in the Irresistible You self-study course here! ✉Sign up for my free action plan & get on my email list! 📸Stay connected with me on IG @IrresistibleIcing 👩💻 Follow me on TikTok @irresistibleicing🔮Join the free podcast discussion group on Facebook 🛍 Shop My Amazon Storefront🎧Subscribe to the podcast free with the Amazon Music app. Sign up here for a free 30-day trial of Prime to try it out today! ☕Want to support the podcast? Buy me a coffee!
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I recently read something that stopped me in my tracks: being fat robbed me of my femininity. And I haven’t been able to shake it. In this episode, I pose a question that came out of a Reddit thread but really speaks to a shared experience so many of us quietly lived: growing up, did femininity ever feel like it wasn’t meant for you? I’m sharing my own experiences of being invisible next to friends, being talked about like I wasn’t even a person, not being able to shop where other girls shopped, missing out on certain “girlhood” moments, and learning very early on which bodies were allowed to be soft, desired, and feminine and which weren’t. We’ll talk about how those moments shape us long after childhood, how confidence can coexist with old wounds, and what it actually looks like to take your femininity back without performing it or earning permission. If you’ve ever felt like girlhood passed you by, or like femininity came with conditions you didn’t meet, this episode is for you. You’re not alone—and you didn’t imagine it. Show Notes!🗒Enroll in the Irresistible You self-study course here! ✉Sign up for my free action plan & get on my email list! 📸Stay connected with me on IG @IrresistibleIcing 👩💻 Follow me on TikTok @irresistibleicing🔮Join the free podcast discussion group on Facebook 🛍 Shop My Amazon Storefront🎧Subscribe to the podcast free with the Amazon Music app. Sign up here for a free 30-day trial of Prime to try it out today! ☕Want to support the podcast? Buy me a coffee!