EP 130 Becoming a Peaceful Mom: The Deep Identity Healing No One Talks About
Sat Dec 13 2025
When you’re parenting a child who’s struggling with substance use or mental health, it changes you in ways most people will never understand.
Your nervous system rewires itself around fear. Your world shrinks to monitoring, anticipating, and trying to prevent disaster. And before you even realize it, your sense of self - your identity - becomes injured by the constant crisis.
In today’s episode, we’re talking about the kind of identity injury moms go through and the healing that has to happen for you to feel like yourself again.
You’ll hear me explain:
• what identity really is
• how chronic fear reshapes your brain and sense of self
• why your identity becomes wrapped up in saving your child
• why healing your identity is different from “changing” it
• how repetition, regulation, and community help repair identity
You’ll also hear about the moment I understood that my life, my identity, and even who I thought my daughter was had been completely reshaped by crisis. And how healing began only when I accepted that I couldn’t go back… I had to integrate and rebuild.
This episode isn’t just about understanding identity injury, it’s about showing you what’s possible when you begin healing it. This is the path to becoming a Peaceful Mom. Not a perfect mom. Not a detached mom. A grounded, regulated, connected mom who leads her family from clarity instead of fear.
And if you want to experience what that feels like in real time, I’m offering 2 free Peaceful Mom group coaching calls before Christmas. Something I’ve never done before!
You can sign up at https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peaceful-mom-group-free-coaching/
If you’ve ever wondered what it’s like to get coached, to be in a room where you can just show up no matter how you feel, or to be surrounded by moms who are healing right alongside you this is your chance.
Come join us!
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with Heather using the link below.
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
The truth about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
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When you’re parenting a child who’s struggling with substance use or mental health, it changes you in ways most people will never understand. Your nervous system rewires itself around fear. Your world shrinks to monitoring, anticipating, and trying to prevent disaster. And before you even realize it, your sense of self - your identity - becomes injured by the constant crisis. In today’s episode, we’re talking about the kind of identity injury moms go through and the healing that has to happen for you to feel like yourself again. You’ll hear me explain: • what identity really is • how chronic fear reshapes your brain and sense of self • why your identity becomes wrapped up in saving your child • why healing your identity is different from “changing” it • how repetition, regulation, and community help repair identity You’ll also hear about the moment I understood that my life, my identity, and even who I thought my daughter was had been completely reshaped by crisis. And how healing began only when I accepted that I couldn’t go back… I had to integrate and rebuild. This episode isn’t just about understanding identity injury, it’s about showing you what’s possible when you begin healing it. This is the path to becoming a Peaceful Mom. Not a perfect mom. Not a detached mom. A grounded, regulated, connected mom who leads her family from clarity instead of fear. And if you want to experience what that feels like in real time, I’m offering 2 free Peaceful Mom group coaching calls before Christmas. Something I’ve never done before! You can sign up at https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peaceful-mom-group-free-coaching/ If you’ve ever wondered what it’s like to get coached, to be in a room where you can just show up no matter how you feel, or to be surrounded by moms who are healing right alongside you this is your chance. Come join us! Resources From Heather Ross Coaching If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with Heather using the link below. https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery The truth about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you! https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/ How to leave a podcast review https://www.youtube.com/shorts/5xkPZM8mj-E