77. Peace Doesn’t Come From Silence: 7 Lies We Learned About Being “Nice”
Fri Feb 06 2026
Many midlife women were taught that being “nice” meant staying quiet, keeping the peace, and putting everyone else first. I believed that advice for most of my life—and it cost me my voice, my peace, and years of self sacrifice.
I'm sharing the 7 lies I learned about being the "good girl" and how they conditioned me to ignore my feelings, avoid conflict, and tolerate what never felt right. This isn’t about fixing yourself or trying harder. It’s about seeing the patterns that kept you silent—so you can finally stop abandoning and betraying yourself.
If you've hit midlife, exhausted and quietly wondering, 'Is this it?', I created Choosing Me: A Women's Wisdom Circle for YOU! Choosing Me is for the ones who are ready to start living life on their terms — without guilt, apology, and without doing it alone.
Choosing Me 👈🏼 All the details and registration link here; I'd love to see you in the group if it feels like a fit. We start February 18
Free resource: 20 Ways to Say 'No' Without Feeling Guilty or Selfish
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Many midlife women were taught that being “nice” meant staying quiet, keeping the peace, and putting everyone else first. I believed that advice for most of my life—and it cost me my voice, my peace, and years of self sacrifice. I'm sharing the 7 lies I learned about being the "good girl" and how they conditioned me to ignore my feelings, avoid conflict, and tolerate what never felt right. This isn’t about fixing yourself or trying harder. It’s about seeing the patterns that kept you silent—so you can finally stop abandoning and betraying yourself. If you've hit midlife, exhausted and quietly wondering, 'Is this it?', I created Choosing Me: A Women's Wisdom Circle for YOU! Choosing Me is for the ones who are ready to start living life on their terms — without guilt, apology, and without doing it alone. Choosing Me 👈🏼 All the details and registration link here; I'd love to see you in the group if it feels like a fit. We start February 18 Free resource: 20 Ways to Say 'No' Without Feeling Guilty or Selfish Send us a text