When Attachment Breaks: Repairing the Bond with Your Kids
Tue Feb 03 2026
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If you’ve ever wondered whether you “messed up” your child, this episode is for you. Secure attachment does NOT come from perfect parenting. It comes from repair after inevitable ruptures. Attachment breaks happen in every family but connection can always be rebuilt.
In this deeply personal episode, we continue to unpack attachment theory — but this time through the real, messy lens of my own experience with separation, grief, and ongoing repair. If you carry mom guilt about time away, postpartum struggle, work demands, family crisis, marital issues, or other life events that led you to be physically or emotionally absent—you'll walk away with hope, clarity, and solidarity that it's never too late to repair connection with your kids.
BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:
Secure attachment doesn’t require constant presenceAll relationships (especially parent-child ones) experience ruptures. This is normal and unavoidable!You can wound attachment without doing anything “wrong”, and yet attachment isn’t ruined by one event (more by bigger, unaddressed patterns)Repair attempts matter—even when they don’t seem to workEven very young children benefit from simple, truthful language that acknowledges and validates their felt experienceFeeling guilt does not equal being guilty. You are NOT a failed parent if attachment feels strained and secure attachment can be strengthened at any stage
FOR SO MUCH MORE:
Book a free consult to learn more about healing your nervous system so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult)
Get on the waitlist for the next round of my 6-week program, Moms Made NewTM to learn the six most powerful life coaching tools every mom needs so that you and your family can flourish: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/mmn-waitlist
HOMEWORK:
Ponder how you can repair any disconnection with your kids and begin to cultivate more secure attachment with them. Share your thoughts with me via email through the link in the show notes or DM me on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity.
COMING UP NEXT:
Join me back for a new episode next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy.
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Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.
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Send us a text If you’ve ever wondered whether you “messed up” your child, this episode is for you. Secure attachment does NOT come from perfect parenting. It comes from repair after inevitable ruptures. Attachment breaks happen in every family but connection can always be rebuilt. In this deeply personal episode, we continue to unpack attachment theory — but this time through the real, messy lens of my own experience with separation, grief, and ongoing repair. If you carry mom guilt about time away, postpartum struggle, work demands, family crisis, marital issues, or other life events that led you to be physically or emotionally absent—you'll walk away with hope, clarity, and solidarity that it's never too late to repair connection with your kids. BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER: Secure attachment doesn’t require constant presenceAll relationships (especially parent-child ones) experience ruptures. This is normal and unavoidable!You can wound attachment without doing anything “wrong”, and yet attachment isn’t ruined by one event (more by bigger, unaddressed patterns)Repair attempts matter—even when they don’t seem to workEven very young children benefit from simple, truthful language that acknowledges and validates their felt experienceFeeling guilt does not equal being guilty. You are NOT a failed parent if attachment feels strained and secure attachment can be strengthened at any stage FOR SO MUCH MORE: Book a free consult to learn more about healing your nervous system so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult) Get on the waitlist for the next round of my 6-week program, Moms Made NewTM to learn the six most powerful life coaching tools every mom needs so that you and your family can flourish: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/mmn-waitlist HOMEWORK: Ponder how you can repair any disconnection with your kids and begin to cultivate more secure attachment with them. Share your thoughts with me via email through the link in the show notes or DM me on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity. COMING UP NEXT: Join me back for a new episode next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy. CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.